Have you seen the amount of people on GoFundMe for their wedding costs?

posted 2 years ago in Money
  • poll: Would you donate to a couple's GoFundMe page created strictly to fund the WEDDING?
    Yes, I would absolutely donate to a GoFundMe to help someone pay for their wedding! : (4 votes)
    2 %
    No, I would not donate to a GoFundMe to help someone pay for their wedding. : (138 votes)
    64 %
    I might donate IF there was a reason the couple was having trouble paying (i.e. illness, job loss) : (63 votes)
    29 %
    I didn't even know these existed except for honeymoons! : (9 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    46 posts
    Newbee

    Wouldn’t do it, probably wouldn’t give money to one unless it was someone I already cared about, but I wouldn’t object to seeing one – I think people figure there’s not really any harm so they might as well give it a shot. Also don’t see any difference between using it to fund a honeymoon or using it to fund a wedding, personally. 

    Post # 3
    Member
    461 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    Using it to blatantly fund a wedding when there are no extreme hardships (like the diagnosis while planning a wedding) leaves a bad taste in my mouth. If it’s okay for them, fine, but it personally would make me feel like I’m begging. However, I plan to use a honeymoon registry since we’re getting married out of state and don’t need anything household-wise. We’re planning to include a note “Your presence is gift enough for us, we are excited you’ve made a huge contribution just by traveling for our big day. If you must give a gift, please make a donation to this charity (I’ll choose one) or our honeymoon registry can be found here”. My family will understand since they know we don’t need household items. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    461 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    Sidenote: my mom saw the kickstarter fund for potato salad and is jokingly talking about starting one for pasta salad “because not everyone likes potatoes”. hahaha

    Post # 5
    Member
    42546 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Other than the crisis type situation mentioned by the OP, I think it is never appropriate to beg publically for money- especially of strangers.

    On the other hand, anyone stupid enough to send money to strangers to finance their wedding, is

    doing so of their own free will.

    Post # 6
    Member
    11740 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    No, I wouldn’t give to these.  It doesn’t cost that much to go to the courthouse and get married.  If these couples can’t wait to save the money for their wedding, why should I give my hard-earned money to them? 

    Post # 7
    Member
    10495 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I would do it as a wedding gift, for someone I knew if there was a reason they were doing it that I agreed with.  I wouldn’t actually use the site though, unless it’s free.  If they take a cut, I would send a cheque.

    Post # 8
    Member
    2018 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Not in my most unhinged flights of fantasy can I conceive of ever donating to the wedding or honeymoon of a stranger (and I’d rather die unwed and untraveled than ever solicit from strangers myself), but I guess people have the right to give it a try.

    Post # 9
    Member
    332 posts
    Helper bee

    Hell-to-the-no. I don’t care if it’s someone close to me or not… Expecting strangers, distant family and any friends to fund your wedding (via some impersonal pity-party GoFundMe page) is a complete trash move to me. There are only a FEW occasions where I even find these pages “okay”. I knew a guy who was diagnosed with a rare disease that nearly took his life. That part is sad, yes. His friends started a page like that for donations and also held big charity events to help him with medical costs, to which he happily accepted. Little did they know his insurance covered nearly 100% of his medical care, and was still on paid leave from his job. During his recovery process, he was able to purchase a new vehicle AND boat.

    Post # 10
    Member
    3222 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I don’t even think job loss is a good enough reason for these things. The only time I would consider making a donation would be if their goal was the $70 it costs to be wed at city hall.

    Post # 11
    Member
    1843 posts
    Buzzing bee

    A month ago I saw A woman on my Twitter TL asking for $ on GoFundMe because she wanted to have her dream wedding that she could not afford. I normally don’t care much for these things and would just not donate but I was like HUH? I would also like to have my “dream wedding” but as most people, you work with a budget and get what your money can buy you. Not go around strangers asking for money for luxuries (she wanted to get married at a castle -.-). The weirdest thing is she is no young girl, she’s a well established professional. 

    I wouldn’t mind helping a family member or friend who’s struggling financially, who’s worked hard to come up with some cash to have a small wedding and still is coming short. I’d much rather help a loved one celebrate than have them skip on even a small, low key celebration because they can’t afford it. But send money to some random person that can afford a decent wedding but still wants to get married in a castle with all the luxuries and have others pay for it? Um. No

    Post # 12
    Member
    1416 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I’m sorry but I’m not donating money to anyone’s wedding, stranger or not. All it takes to get married is a marriage license and a trip to the local courthouse. If you can’t afford that, then you shouldn’t be getting married. Just my two cents.

    Post # 13
    Member
    643 posts
    Busy bee

    If someone wants a wedding, they should pay for it. However, like a person above me said, if people are stupid enough to give away their hard earned money to strangers who want something (as opposed to NEEDING something like surgery), then that’s their business. If you can get free money, why not I suppose. 

    Post # 14
    Member
    3316 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Whatever happened to working within your budget/disposable income? I can see a gofundme for a child’s operation when the parents have limited means. For a wedding? Classless, disgusting, choose your negative adjective.

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