Post # 1
So, for some reason it really bothers me when people ask a couple that has been engaged for less that 24 hours if they set a date yet. Unless you have a venue already or had started planning pre-engagement, that seems like a really hard question. Can’t people just enjoy their engagement for a day or two before people bombard them with when are you getting married questions?!
Maybe it just bothers me a lot more because I have had a pretty long engagement and didn’t set a date until like 6 months in. I just got so tired of that question. I’ll set a date when I decide on a venue! A simple congrats is fine!
Ok, vent over 🙂
Post # 3
I think people ask ’cause they don’t really have anything else besides, “how did he ask?”. I agree that it is annoying though. After I while I would just give a season with the year.
Question: “So when are you getting married?”
Me: “Summer of 2010”.
That was usually enough.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
Ours was “Uh, I dunno, June?”
I have a post up going (soon, I think?) about how we chose our date. It’s the day before my parents’ 40th wedding anniversary. 🙂
Post # 5
OMG we got the same thing too! At first when I was being asked if we had a date yet- I busted up laughing thinking it was a joke. But then everyone kept on asking. It was really unbelievable that all these people seriously thought we had any clue what we were going to do immediately after getting engaged. I still managed to enjoy just being engaged for a few months before I started planning but I can see how it can cause stress and pressure.
I know exactly where you’re coming from.
Post # 6
For some reason, that question didn’t bother me. I would just answer with. We haven’t decided yet, or when we had decided on the date, I would just give them the date.
Post # 7
Yeah, why is that always the first question that people ask?? “Oh, you just got engaged over the weekend? …So when’s the big day?” (But then people totally knock on women who start planning their weddings before they are engaged. Double standard much?) When we got engaged it took us another month and a half to settle on a wedding date… and I would say that we started our planning very quickly after getting engaged.
Post # 8
This post makes me laugh because I had people asking me when I was making my “He proposed!” phone calls some of the people on the other end of the phone were like “Congratulations! When are you guys going to get married?” I was like…umm…he just proposed 5 minutes ago lol. And then some people were making me feel like a bad bride to be because we didn’t start planning right away!
Post # 9
I think its just naturally the next question to ask….assuming most people realize you may not have a specific date, I would typically answer Spring 2010. After 6 months its a reasonable question
Post # 10
@HunnyBear – OMG, I so feel your pain! I got the same thing during my “We’re engaged!!!” phone calls, and I was like “Uh, he just asked 15 minutes ago and I have no idea!” Also, date twin 🙂
Post # 11
Yeah, this was kind of annoying, but I think it’s the natural thing to ask when you find out someone got engaged. We changed our date a few times (and pretty drastically), so I ended up saying different dates to different people. I should have just said “we have no idea because we got engaged last week!”, but that somehow felt like the wrong answer. Now that we officially set a date and booked a venue, I get to tell everyone all over again 🙂
Post # 12
Oh yes. We managed to get by with saying, “Spring 2010” but right away people were asking for a date!
Post # 13
i have a “friend” who i rarely see, who is not invited. when she asks when the wedding is I just say “march” even though we have a date!