Post # 1
We started our first registry but haven’t done much since and we have bridal showers coming up in the next 2 months, and I really want to get on it, but our schedules conflict a lot of the times….is it wrong to go start another registry and pick out what I want without him there?? He LOVES to do the scanning…but he told me today he’s okay with me going without him if i want something to do. Somehow I feel wrong doing this…should I?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t feel wrong. My husband really doesn’t care about the stuff that we registered for. We didn’t even register in the store. If he looks at the stuff later and doesn’t like it, feel free to remove it from the registry for something else.
Post # 4
I started a Pottery Barn registry without FI. Neither of us really enjoyed registering anyway so I didn’t feel bad.
Post # 5
If he’s ok with it, then of course don’t feel bad! My FI would NOT be ok with that lol! He’s super particular about what we pick out, especially if it has any decorative elements. We have very particular themes picked out for each room, and I don’t know if I’d trust myself to get it right :/
Post # 6
I wouldn’t feel wrong either. I did it our registries entirely online. DH was more than happy that I didn’t drag him through the traditional registry tasks. He looked at the list and added a few on. 😉
It worked for us because our guests almost entirely brought us cash gifts and were not big into the registry.
Post # 7
We went to BB&B to register, and after 2 hours we were both exhausted. I added a ton more stuff online later, and I only called him over when I thought it was something he might have an opinion on (e.g. china patterns). But I added towels and utensils and whatnot by myself. And I did the entire honeymoon registry myself and just showed him the finished product, but that’s obviously a little different.
Post # 8
Mine told me to register for whatever I want. He doesn’t want any part of shopping and he trusts my tastes in things. The only things he said to make sure we had on our registries were a KitchenAid mixer and sterling silverware.
Post # 9
We just registered this weekend and he went with me to one place and I went with my mom to the second place.
Don’t feel bad! I’m sure a lot of us do this way!
Post # 10
I started both of our registries online and filled them up mostly. We haven’t even stepped foot in a store yet.
We’ll go in together to do things like linens and bedding – since it is hard to tell what its like without feeling the softness and whatnot.
Post # 11
FI told me up front the specific items he was most concerned about: Silverware and mason jars (for drinking glasses-God Bless country boys!). I allowed to pick those two out and he said the rest is up to me!
I think it’s fine to register alone! Chances are if you drag him along he could be miserable which would in turn create a poor registry! 🙂
Post # 12
I started ours online and put about 20 things I didn’t want to forget figuring I could change/delete them afterward if we wanted a different style or type. I mean how many guys really have opinions on what type of cheese grater you have? I’d say it just depends on your FI. If he cooks a lot or is really interested in the design of your house I’d say it would be more important to include him from the beginning.
We have a lot of stuff already so rather than “I already registered for that” when we went to the store the comment we said most was “I already have one of those”.
Post # 13
So yall don’t think that say if I go into belks to start a registry the woman won’t look at me weird like, hmm where is your man at? I know, that’s not important and yalla re probably saying “who cares what they think” haha but I dont know, I’m always weird about that…maybe I’m thinking too much into it lol.
What would yall DEFINITLY not register for without him being there?? I’m thinking like bedding I don’t want to register for unless he’s there with me because we’ll both be sleeping in it so I want his opinion as well.
jayelcee85…haha I agree! definitly gotta love our country boys 😉
Post # 14
we went and did target together – i did BB&B all alone online. mostly for stuff we wanted but couldnt find at target. i showed him – but ultimately i did it alone.
Post # 15
fi had surprisingly strong opinions on what we registered for, so i wouldn’t have been able to do it without him. if your fi says he doesn’t mind, go for it! you can always start it yourself and then edit it later with fi.
Post # 16
Do it with him online. I would look for hours and hours then showed him my favorites for him to pick. (We did Crate and Barrel and Macy’s).
Also, he cared about knives and cookware, I cared about the smaller things. So I made sure he was involved with those additions.