Have you used the pull out method?

posted 4 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Would you trust the pull out method (POM) to avoid pregnancy?
    I have solely used the POM. : (155 votes)
    42 %
    I have used the POM along with another form of contraception. : (80 votes)
    22 %
    I would consider using the POM at some point, but haven't yet. : (23 votes)
    6 %
    I would never use the POM. : (112 votes)
    30 %
  • Post # 3
    839 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    No, I’ve never relied on just the pull out method. We don’t want kids right now, so we have always used condoms and/or hormonal birth control. Preventing pregnancy isn’t something I particularly want to half ass. 

    Post # 4
    10500 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Yep.  I’m also on BCP and we usually use condoms.  We wanted to try a few times without condoms.  We’ve probably also used it with condoms, but it would have been because I was in pain and wouldn’t have been pre-planned.

    Post # 5
    756 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    That’s all we use but I also have pcos ( irregular periods and will probably really have to try and conceive) so although I do not want to be pregnant before getting married- it also wouldn’t be the end of the world.

    Post # 6
    2673 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

    @RedPandas:  No, I will never use the pull out method. I don’t care if there are statistics, to me, it’s not a good form of BC. It’s one step away from just not trying to prevent, and I refuse to take the risk of getting pregnant right now. No offense intended to those who use it, I just won’t. 


    Post # 8
    756 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think the pull out method could be a good option for people who aren’t actively trying, but if they accidentally got pregnant then they would be ok with that. While I do think that it can be 96% effective if done correctly every time, I think it’s hard to do correctly every time. I think there is more room for error using the pull out method than taking a pill everyday or using a condom every time.

    DH and I are planning to TTC in June, but I’m going off birth control in January. We are planning on using the pull out method and NFP with condoms during my fertile window between January and June. But if we got pregnant a little early it would be ok with us just not ideal.

    Post # 9
    12262 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I had a psychotic, abusive ex-boyfriend who insisted that if I REALLY loved him and trusted him, that I’d trust him to use just the pull out method.

    Later, I found out that he would intentionally pull out late to try to get me pregnant (so I wouldn’t leave). Luckily, I never got pregnant (as far as I know, he’s sterile).

    That being said, I will never trust ANYONE again when it comes to pull-and-pray!

    Post # 11
    10500 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    @Tomato22:  Why does it need to be either/or though?  It can be both/and.


    Post # 13
    451 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    yup…doesnt always work…we werent trying or preventing to get pregnant though…most times it worked but one time it didnt…im on the pill now so we dont even try that anymore

    Post # 14
    5213 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @RedPandas:  This is one of those “do as I say, not as I do” things. I would never recommend someone to rely on the pull out method, but my husband and I have been using it exclusively for nearly 9 years and it has never failed. 

    Post # 15
    561 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    @ImmaBee:  “Preventing pregnancy isn’t something I particularly want to half ass.” THIS.

    I don’t think pull out method used withthout some other method of birth control. Chances for error with the pull method seem much higher. With a birth control pill, if you take it a bit late when you usually take it exactly on time, your protection is hardly altered. With the pull out method, if you pull out a bit a late you are not protected at all. There is a margin of error for both methods, but it seems like I’d rather not leave such a crucial decision to a man on the verge of orgasm. If you REALLY don’t want to get pregnant, I don’t think it’s wise to use it as your only bc.

    Post # 16
    8475 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I could NEVER rely on just that method. I don’t know how girls can relax and enjoy sex if they don’t want to get pregnant, but only use pull-out. 

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