Have your 2 familys met?

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Sadiepoo: Not at all yet all my families in Canada his is all in texas … my mom and maybe grandmother will  be spending xmas with his family we were all invited down there so heath permiting for my grandmother we will go if not least my mom and i will 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Sadiepoo:  I’ve been with FI for 6 years. We are around my family WAY more than his family. Our families met about a year in when I graduated college. They only live 15 mins from each other so they ran into each other a few times. The next planned meeting was our engagement dinner in October of last year lol. That was also the FIRST time my mom has met FI’s mom (parents are split).

Since our engagement, our families have been hanging out a bit more. Everyone gets along and stuff. Our families are also from different cultures, which can be challenging at times. But overall, we’re all pretty good.

The other thing is,for us to do more planned things -it’s way too many people – like 20 for immediate family. So I’m comfortable with the next time EVERYONE gets together it’s for something wedding related. Until then, I’m happy with bringing my brother to dinner at his dad’s – or his siblings coming to my mom’s for a bit, etc. No need for everyone to be together.

 

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Our parents met at graduation some time back but otherwise just communicate over the phone (mostly our moms – worrying about coordinating their dresses!)

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

FH and I have been together for nearly eight years.  My parents and grandmother and his mother, aunt and grandparents met once at our college graduation almost five years ago.  My FMIL is planning a bridal shower for me and my mom offered to help.  They’ve talked on the phone at least once.  But no, normally, they don’t mingle, even though we all live in the same town.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2014

My family are in the UK, FI’s family are in NV (we’re in CA) so nope, none of them have ever met.  We see his family a lot more than mine, for obvious reasons!

I’m excited to have them meet, I think my FMIL and MOB will get along great, and I’m looking forward to sharing my nephews with my FSILs/FBIL since my brothers kids are the only ones of the new generation!

Don’t worry too much, I’m having my family stay for 2 weeks (1 week either side of the wedding) so we can all do family stuff, and I’m also taking time off work.  I have friends flying in from the UK for the wedding who’re crashing at our place, it’s gonna be a crazy hectic time, but they’re all good people. 

I think I’m gonna set up a bunch of fun outings – Seaworld, zoo, disneyland, beach days etc, and then whoever wants to go can do so 🙂

Could you organise a casual dinner (BBQ?) or a beach day or something similar prior to the wedding, so everyone can relax and get to know one another better?

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Our fanmily has met twice, once after we were angaged, and the wedding weekend.   To be fair, there is about a 3 hour drive between the two.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Our parents have never met, and might not for a while.  In addition, theres a language barrier – FI and i can’t think of a good way for them to meet that isn’t super awkward or intimidating! 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Sadiepoo:  

no they have not meet and we’ve been married one year next week!

Post # 11
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Helper bee

My parents have met with FI’s mom and stepdad a few times. Since getting engageged, they have spent a lot of time with my mom due to circumstance. When I was out of town and my mom got admitted to the hospital they visited her, and his mom actually stayed with her for two or three days until I could get back. Super sweet! 

My mother only met FI’s dad and stepmom after my dad’s funeral. After we’ve been together almost four years. Ugh. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yes, our parents have met. Our families live about 10 minutes from each other. Our moms talk regularly and they all hang out every now and again as well.

 

DH and I live about 6 hours from them.

 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Sadiepoo:  First off, my cats name is Sadie ;). 

Our families live in different states so my scenario is different.

 I do think in general:

-people are creatures of habit.  They don’t venture out of their routines much and in this case you have 4 people who would need to break routine.

-some people are more social than others with different levels of comfort being in groups. 

-new relationships take time to build. 

 

Maybe you can plan a little family dinner to get some interaction going.  I really think it takes time to layer interactions together consistently and thus build relationships.  

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

Our dads met once. For like 10 seconds.

So, no, not really, our families have not met. I dread the day because our families are so very different. My family loves my SO though, so that’s really all I care about.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Yeah, our parents live in the same neighborhood.  They aren’t best friends or anything, but they will stop and chat if they’re walking the dogs at the same time.  My mom has (semi-jokingly) told his parents they can’t move, since this is the ideal co-grandparenting arrangement.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My FMiL met my father once, and since then has not been in contact with him. It was a nightmare. She’s better off, believe me. My FFiL met my mum when she was still alive and they got on well.

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