Post # 1
Boy and I were discussing this recently – how long can we put off introducing our Mums to one another?
My Mum, as much as I love her, really isn’t a people person. There are very few people she can get along with for more than 5 minutes at a time. He tells me his Mum can be the same (but she’s always been lovely to me). We’ve decided to put it off as long as possible – can we really come up with a rota, so that Mums be at the wedding and still never see each other?? My Mum can watch me say my vows, then we’ll stop the ceremony, usher one mum in and one mum out surrounded by bodyguards and covered in blankets. Then we’ll re-start, he’ll say his vows, and we’re golden. We’ll split the reception in half – the company I work for can get me a discount on some lovely wedding backdrops, so we can use two of those!!
Our Dads aren’t a problem – they’re both deceased and we’re convinced they’re watching over us, and driving 4x4s together!
Anyway….at what point in your relationshipp did/ do you plan to let your parents meet his??
Post # 3
At the wedding. I’m not kidding, they are 1400 miles away from one another and it’s just not practical for them to get together beforehand. Honestly, after the wedding they’ll probably not have any contact with one another anyway, so I don’t see what the big deal is…
Post # 4
We arranged dinner so our parents could meet for the first time about a month or two after we got engaged. They’ve seen each other several times since then, but not on as much of a formal level.
I had a friend of mine tell me that her and her husband’s parents didn’t meet until the wedding rehearsal (after the couple had already been together for 5 years and the families lived within about 10 miles of each other). I didn’t want the same for myself. I wanted our parents to know each other, even if only a little, and feel comfortable with one another by the time the wedding rolls around.
Post # 5
Our parents haven’t met yet. My parents will probably meet his dad/step mom at some point before the wedding, but probably won’t meet his mom until the rehearsal dinner.
Post # 6
I dont think we really planned on intriducing our families it just kind of happened. My mom is the same as yours so we thought it would be better if we did it when there were a lot of other family members together.
It wasnt as bad as we thought it would be, my grandmother and his mother ended up getting along great. So, who knows what will happen, but good luck!
Post # 7
At both the Korean and Canadian weddings. The Korean wedding will be fine as my mum will be staying with us. The Canadian wedding will be a whole different story as his parents will be staying at my mum’s house for two weeks. Oh the cultural and linguistic gulfs. It’s going to be a very very interesting time…
Post # 8
Our parents met right before our 1 year mark. Mine came into town to go to the horse races and we decided to do it then. It was really important to me for them to meet before we ever got engaged because eventually they’ll be spending Christmas and maybe even Thanksgiving together (yep, I’m going to be… some kind of zilla about holidays because I REFUSE to split them up once the grandmothers who can’t travel pass on). I was SO nervous, because our parents are pretty different, and almost got SICK on the way there. It totally ended up being okay, no problems at all thanks to a “no religion, no politics” rule we established earlier and his mom ended up giving a SPEECH about how much she loves me.
I really do recommend that they meet eachother beforehand. WIth all the pressure already on that day, emotions will be running high and it’ll just be easier if you get it out of the way before the actual wedding. Surly they’ll be on their best behavior.
Post # 9
My parents first met my FMIL before we were engaged when she visited us. Since we were suppose to get married in August and my parents already had their tickets they met my future family in law this summer in California. They saw each other again this fall. It’s great since they live 3000 miles apart. The only hard part is the whole translating part where I have to sit next to my mom and translate pretty much everything from French to English.
Post # 10
We’ve been together for 5 years and our parents haven’t yet met. whoops. It’s not necessarily intentional as FI’s parents live in upstate NY and mine are on the South Shore and we all have crazy schedules…but are we pushing the meeting? uh, no. Will they meet before the wedding? Maybe…lol. At least I’ve met his parents/stayed with them and he’s stayed at my parents plenty and we all get along!
Post # 11
By the way they get along really well even with the language barrier
Post # 12
We’re from the same hometown and dated in high school (I know, super corny), so our parents have known each other for years. I’m SO thankful at this point, as there is absolutly no stress on our families getting along, we already know they do.
Post # 13
Ours will meet next week at Thanksgiving … *gulp* I’m really nervous, because my mom can be kind of introverted and his dad is … loud. I’m just going to keep the wine handy and hope for the best.
Post # 14
Ours didn’t meet until we were engaged….right around the 3.5 year mark.
Post # 15
our parents met 5 months after we started dating, around the time that we moved in together. they had actually known each other from years ago, we belong to the same temple, but his parents quit the temple so they hadn’t seen each other in years. i don’t remember why we decided that time, but i think there was something going on at the temple that they both wanted to go to, so we all got together.
Post # 16
We’re working on this now. They have met before but only at our graduatuion and they didn’t really speak much. My mom and his mom have completely different personalities and unfortunately I’m closer to his mom than my own. UGH. Ths whole thing is gonna make me sick.