(Closed) Haven't gone bridezilla yet, but I'm gonna…

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

oh man… goodluck! just keep calm and have a cupcake 😉

if you’re worried about the party the night before the wedding, maybe suggest it be a bit before because you don’t want to be tired/rushed with wedding stuff (since that is the most important) right?

Post # 5
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Hopefully she calms down! Also there are only two people allowed to mess with excel spreadsheets for me wedding my Fi and I! Don’t giver her acess to it

Post # 7
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1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@LadyCupcake:  Hm, then maybe have the dinner earlier and excuse yourselves gracefully early enough on (reason being you need to be rested)
I don’t know. I know nothing of destination weddings :S sorry! Goodluck

Post # 9
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1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@LadyCupcake:  can you tell her “no”? or does she not accept it at all, maybe get your FI to talk to her calmly… it’s tough because she probably means well.. either way, your wedding is a wedding, this is just a big party right. the wedding will/should mean more regardless of how big or small it is in comparison or how fancy. you know? the wedding will be more important 🙂 as soon as you say “i do” that is the kicker!

Post # 11
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1472 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@LadyCupcake: I think you need to lay out the fact that there are 7 months to go and if she wants to avoid a total mother-daughter relationship meltdown and major stress, pain and unhappiness, she needs to listen to you and not put so much pressure on. Perhaps lay out for her what is negotiable and what isn’t. Maybe say it with your dad and FI present so she will be on her best behavior and you will also have witnesses to what you agreed to? It sounds like no matter what you will have drama given her personality, but maybe less so if you try and come up with some sort of game plan first. Also, try to stay as calm and rational as possible so she can’t derail things and blame it on you.

Post # 12
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1472 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@sept22insf:  Oh wait, this is your MIL not your mother. Well, maybe some tactics can still apply :/

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@LadyCupcake:  Good luck! I hope you’re able to talk some sense into her with the support of your FFIL and FI. It sounds like her heart is in the right place as is yours. So hopefully everyone can remember that and the fact that this is all to celebrate a great thing!

Post # 15
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2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Is it possible to move her party to the day AFTER the wedding? Everyone will still be around and if it is a brunch/BBQ then it’s 100% going to be comparing apples and oranges when guests compare her party to your reception. It also means you won’t be stressed making those comparisons the night before your wedding. Just a thought. 

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

Put your foot down. She’s obvoiously trying to needle her way in to control things. I would definitely get FI involved.

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