(Closed) Having 2 AHR. Need help with invite wording!

posted 5 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
2385 posts
Buzzing bee

Are you inviting the same people to both events or will you have two seperate events with seperate groups of people?

Post # 4
12881 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree with Misshobbit’s question – is this the same group of people being invited to both? 

I think as you have it worded, I would be a bit confused and wouldn’t know for sure if you were married or if I was coming to the ceremony.  I can’t think of a better way to word it right now, but it just sounds confusing to me.

And finally, honestly, why are you having two receptions?  I guess it seems a bit gift grabby to me.  If all of your family is in NY, why not have it there, and then have a small party with FL friends when you’re home again? 

Post # 6
643 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@BrideAtSea:  I would send two separate sets of invitations, one to the people nearest NY and one to the people nearest FL. However, if someone declines and it seems that they would be able to make the other one, you can inform them of it on a case-by-case basis.

The way I’m doing it is that on our wedding website we said we would be having at home receptions in both my hometown and his, the details of which were to be announced later. We are just going to update the website with details and email everyone since they already received wedding invitations (we opted to invite everyone to the Destination Wedding and just go with a “whoever comes, comes” policy).

@abbie017:  I don’t think that’s necessarily fair to say it’s “gift grabby”. For instance, I’m having two separate BBQs at my parents house and at my FIs parents’ house because our families are so far apart. It would be a 23 hour drive to go from his hometown to mine. If we were to just have one in one of our hometowns, we would pretty much be automatically excluding either his family or mine. The whole point of having an at home reception after a destination wedding is so that the people that couldn’t travel to the destination wedding get to come. And I don’t think it’s fair to expect someone to travel significantly for a post-wedding at home reception.

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