(Closed) Having a baby in a one bedroom apartment

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Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think it can be done in a one-bedroom. I’m a mom-to-be, but I know people who have done it while saving for a house or to finish our their lease before moving. We’re planning to have the baby in our room for the first few months anyway, which I think is pretty common. Also, they make travel or portable versions of many baby things, like swings, bounce seats and high chairs, so you can save space with a baby.

Post # 4
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Honey bee

Its certainly doable but you have to weigh a few items.

Will having the baby in your room start to interfere with your relationship with your husband. It can be draining to have everyone in the same room. You will have to adjust your schedule (like talking, TV, lights etc) around the babies schedule.

If you save the $300 a month by not getting a bigger place, will that allow you to purchase a home that much faster? IE, by the the time your child turns 2?  Because once your baby is 1 years old sharing a one bedroom will increasingly interrupt your relationship with your husband.

It certainly can be done, but I think you will find yourself so stressed with the lack of space and privacy that it is probably worth spending more for a second room. 

If $1300 is a mortgage payment that is all it is. Owning is so much more expensive than that because of the items you mentioned, but also maintenance of the place (replacing appliances, lawns, roofs etc)

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Are there any one bedrooms with a study in your area? When FH and I first looked for apartments a lot of the one bedrooms also offered a study/computer room which would be big enough for a babies room IMO. They cost the same as many of the one bedrooms but it gives you a little extra space and/or privacy for the baby without going up in rent.

We currently have a two bedroom, two bath for ourselves, our two dogs and are also expecting. I feel like while our apartment is larger than a lot in our area that it is not big enough once the baby comes. We are in the market for another apartment (our current one has some VERY loud neighbors and no why could we have a baby here. We have to move.) and would ideally like to rent a townhouse or 2-3 bedroom for the space. Of course we would prefer a house but we don’t feel comfortable buying a house just to buy a house and would rather save for something we love…in the mean time we don’t to pay a mortages worth in rent a month either. We’re kinda in the same boat as you.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I don’t have a baby but don’t must mom’s keep the baby in their room for the first few months anyway?

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think if you are alright with having the baby sleep in the same room as you, then it is do-able, but eventually you are also going to have to think about what you will need for the baby, because you say you are already cramped on space. You will need somewhere for her/his clothes. A place for toys, trust me they can take up space, espically if you have relatives who will splurge on a first birthday or something. My older brother has a son, and my mother went crazy for his first birthday, my brother and his wife, had to turn one of their guest bedrooms into a play room for him because he got so many toys. He isn’t spoiled by any means, but he does have a lot of toys from his birthdays. I mean they still have a guest bedroom, but I’m just saying. My mom raised me and my older brother in a one bedroom apartment for a little, my father was in the navy, so we didn’t see him a lot. She actually slept on the couch and had us share room when I got older. (It was a pull out couch.) When I was a baby, she had me in a bassinet in the living room at night, so my older brother could sleep in his room without hearing me cry when I was a baby. She kept some of our toys in the the living room, and the rest of them stayed in my older brothers room, when I got older and it was time for me to be taken out of the crib, my mom got bunk beds, and I slept on the bottom, because I was still little, and my older brother slept on the top. If we had company over, the little bit of toys out in the living room got put in our bedroom, and two or three toys were left out for us to play with when people were over. When my mom got pregnant with my little brother, we moved into a three bedroom apartment. She kept my little brother in her room till he was old enough to be taken out of the crib, and me and my older brother each had our own rooms. Then me and my younger brother shared a room, and then when I got older, my little brother and big brother shared a room. When my dad got out of the navy we moved to PA and bought our first house. We all had our own bedrooms. There were 3 bedrooms upstairs. My mom and dad’s room. (Master) Mine. and my little brother’s room, and then there was a family room, a computer room, and laundry room, and another bedroom downstairs, which was my older brother’s room. We moved here when I was 10, so it took my parents 14 years to finally buy a house, where we all had our own bedrooms.

Sorry that was so long, haha, just wanted to give you a prespective of a one bedroom apartment. I mean you are only having one child, so it’s not as bad as me and brothers, haha, but it can get cramped, and don’t get me wrong I had a good childhood, but I did wish for my own space a lot. If I were you, I would look for a 2 bedroom apartment. Eventually your child is going to get too big for the crib. (I think my brother switched my nephew to a bed at a little after he turned 2. He was starting to try and climb out of the crib) and I don’t know if you would be okay with having a toddler bed in your bedroom or not, plus all other things. My mom always told me that she loved us to death, but she was glad when she got a room all to her self again, with no crib in it, toys, baby clothes, etc, haha. Plus it can get hard to be intimate with your SO too, I would think. So again if I were you I would look for a 2 bedroom. I think it would make it a lot easier for you.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@FinallyMarried82: In some of those apartments the den is as big as the room a grew up in. Certainly large enough for a crib and such. Good luck and happy hunting!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I think it is certainly do-able in a 1-bedroom for now, but I think if you look hard enough you will be able to find an affordable larger apartment as well. We live in a nice neighborhood in the city of Chicago and pay $1000/month for a 3-bedroom. We had to look really hard to find it, but they are out there!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

It’s doable but it sounds like you already have a pretty crowded room. I would go for an apt with a “study” or a 2nd bedroom. Good luck!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Congratulations on expecting! 

I think it all depends on when you are thinking of buying a house.  Living in a 1 bedroom apartment with a baby in a crib is one thing.  Living in a 1 bedroom house with a toddler is another thing.  I think even if you had a den or really large walk in closet (it sounds odd, but some are really big enough for a crib and a dresser) it would give the toddler their own “space”.  

If you have a 1 bedroom apartment, than that means you save that extra $200 a month or about $2,400 a year.  Over 3 years that is an extra $7,200 but is that really worth your sanity with a child?  I would rather give up my cable tv or something personally!  

Another thing to think about is all the kid “stuff”.  Having room for things like a high chair, swing, toys, diapers, clothes, etc really adds up! 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

  I would for sure look for apartments with two bedrooms. It will be possible to have a 1 bedroom for the first few months but after that you will really want the baby to have its own room. Plus babys collect alot of things!!! You will have people buying and buying for your little one and all of that stuff needs to go somewhere.

 I would not buy a house until after the baby comes. Your going to be SOOO very surprised at how much this baby is going to cost. If I didn’t have my childs expenses, I would be sporting my new SUV right now! lol (And thats really no joke!)

 Have you looked at renting a house or call a realtor and look for rent to own homes? I know you said townhomes but look at houses too. Its worth the shot! Good Luck!!!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think it can be done, but like another poster said, maybe just for the 1st year.  Me and my fi live in a 1 bedroom condo that we own.  We plan on having our first baby here, and staying until he/she is around a year old.  Then we plan to rent out our space and buy a house. Yes, we have thought about how it might put a damper on our relationship (sex life!) but then it’s these tiny sacrifices that will be well worth it when we finally buy our house.  Both of our parents came to this country with just the clothes on their backs and raised 2 kids each in tiny studio apartments…both sets of parents then went on to buy houses and live comfrotably.  As fi & I say, if they could do it, we can too!

EDIT: And congratulations!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

This can definitely work.  Our friends lived in a one-bedroom until their baby was probably 8 months or so, and it was fine.  If you just found out that you’re expecting, I’m sure you could make it work for at least another year or year and a half.  Even if you have to move before three years (and I think you probably will want to), you would save several thousand dollars.

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Honestly, I think it will be tough and I only say this because one of my best friends did it. Before they found out they were pregnant they lived in a large one bedroom. The apartment was very awkward. The bedroom was SMALL but the living room and bathroom (of all places) were enormous. This was more than do-able for them without the baby but when she came, it made things pretty difficult. Moving wasn’t an option at the time so they had to make due with what they had. About a year after their daughter was born they were able to move into a 2 bedroom but for the first year neither my friend or her husband were very happy. 

It affected their relationship alot having their daughter in the room with them. They weren’t comfortable being intimate infront of the baby so that really only happened when their daughter would spend the night at their parents (maybe once a month if they were lucky). There was just so much stuff that even having the large living room, didn’t really help. My friend was always self-conscious of her apartment because it was very cluttered.

Every couple is different and I’m sure you would be able to make it work but IMO, if you can afford a 2 bedroom, it’s a no brainer.

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