Post # 1
My fiancé and I recently had our engagement photos taken and I ended up being a little mad. When we met with our photographer before booking her we really liked her; she was fun and friendly and her portfolio was great, so we booked her that night. Well it seems that she must have liked my fiancé a little too much because she was flirting with him during our engagement photo session! She was laughing at everything he said and jumped in to put her arms around him when I didn’t understand how to pose, instead of just posing me. And when he changed into his uniform she commented on how hot he looked and said she has a thing for guys in uniform. After the photo shoot we invited her out to lunch with us and when we were there she seemed to only want to talk to my fiancé. Granted, we were telling stories about work and his job is more exciting than mine but she hung onto his every word and barely seemed to listen when I talked. At the time I shrugged it off thinking maybe I was overreacting, but the day after the photo shoot I was talking with my future mother in law about it and she said that my future father in law (who was also at the photo shoot) had noticed that she was flirting with my fiancé as well He told her that he thought it was very unprofessional and was worried about what would happen on our wedding day. My fiancé’s father doesn’t normally pick up on things like that too easily so for him to also notice that she was flirting means that she was being very obvious about it. To be fair, I will say that my fiancé has a very friendly personality that does come off to women as flirting sometimes. But am I wrong to be mad? I feel that as a professional she should know not to flirt with a client, especially right in front of his future wife! And as a woman I feel that she should respect another woman’s relationship and not flirt with my fiancé. The whole thing made me feel very uncomfortable and now I am worried about how she will act at the wedding, especially if she is that one that ends up photographing the groom getting ready pre ceremony. I don’t want to fire her because I like the photos that the company takes, and I would love to just request the other photographer that works there but he costs $3000 more and we can’t really afford that. What is anyone else’s take on this?
Post # 2
I would be very uncomfortable having her take my wedding photos in this situation, I would want to either confront her politely about the issue and request that she conduct herself more professionally at my wedding (though I’m not sure whether it is appropriate to do this) or I would hire another photographer.
Post # 3
I would laugh. And move on. He’s marrying you. I think you’re just imagining the worst and it’s highly unlikely to happen. She’s going to see you guys one more time for the wedding, that’s it. Honestly, based on what you said happened at the engagement shoot it’s a pretty far assumption that something crazy will happen at your wedding.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard
I’m not a jealous person at all but that would irk me being its very unprofessional.
If she is just a photographer and not the owner of the company, I would contact the owner directly. Explain the situation and tht others saw it and commented and that you would like another photographer or you will seek another company. Dealing with the I owner directly will most likely resolve it as long as it is not her.
Post # 5
If I complained about her, I would want to make sure that she was not the photographer who showed up on the day of the wedding. If she’s unprofessional enough to flirt, maybe she’s unprofessional enough to retaliate and not do her best work for you. Are there other photographers in the business (at about the same price point) whose style you also like?
Post # 6
Have you gotten the pictures back yet? If not, try to reserve judgment. If so, did you like them? If yes, be logical, nothing is going to happen between your fiance and photographer, and some women are just horrible at realizing when they’re flirting in general, even at times to the point that it might make others. Take it as a compliment and move on. If not, look into getting out of your contract and hiring a different photographer! This is why engagement shoots exist.
Post # 7
I haven’t gotten the pictures back yet so I don’t know how they look but based on her work they’re going to be good. Logically I know nothing is going to happen btwn her and my fiancé, I just don’t want to feel as uncomfortable on my wedding day as I did at the engagement shoot. I know that some people just don’t realize they’re flirting and I probably would have brushed the whole thing off if it wasn’t for the fact that my fiancé’s dad also noticed and felt the need to mention it to his wife. That’s why I’m still bothered by it, because it was obviously noticeable to others and I just feel that that’s rude. But like some of you said, we’re only going to see her one more time and hopefully she will be smart enough to act more professionally around other vendors and large amounts of people. So unless our engagement photos look awful (or she tries to contact him or something) I’m sure I will end up keeping her as our photographer but I will most likely end up requesting that she photographs me the morning of the wedding instead of my fiancé, just so that I don’t have to worry. Thank you all for your input!
Post # 8
I would not feel comfortable at all if my photographer was being that unprofessional and flirting with my FI. Unless you are an absolute devotee of her portfolio and her photography style, I would start looking for another photographer. There are so many wonderful photographers out there that I would not waste my time and cause myself undue stress of using someone who cannot keep her hands to herself. The other thing is, the actual wedding day is going to be very stressful so the last thing you’d need is to be stressed out that your photographer is all over your future DH. Even the possibility would make me upset, so to mitigate such unnecessary stress I would go with a different photographer without a moment’s hesitation.