Post # 1
Well, I’m one of those types that had a gender preference. I’m from a family of 3 girls and my sister has a girl. It’s all I feel I know. This is our first of hopefully 2 children so there’s still a chance! Don’t get me wrong, I’ll love my little boy to pieces and I’m super thrilled that he seems totally healthy, but I can’t help but feel a little disappointed. I always pictured the advice I’d give to my daughter based on my own life experience, but I realize a lot of it will translate to a boy as well. Also, my one friend’s boy is rambunctious and a bit difficult to be honest, while my friend with a girl of the same age is more serene. Finally, for some weird irrational reason I picture a boy looking and acting like my DH (blonde, pale, whip smart, driven, introverted and more rigid in his thinking) and a girl looking and acting more like me (brunette, darker skin, more balanced between intellectual/thoughtful and empathy/extroversion). crazy I know. Anyone else deal with mild disappointment that they know they’ll get over? Or got over?
Post # 3
I just wanted to say that I think there is nothing wrong with having a gender preference. I have 2 girls- the 1st baby I had no preference, but the 2nd I wanted another girl. People seemed horrified that I didn’t want a boy. We are talking about having a 3rd. If we do- I am hoping for another girl. I would be a little disappointed if I had a boy.
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Post # 5
Hey having a little boy is fun! I have a 20 month old little boy and he is the best. I to wanted/still want a girl. But having a boy, he is totally a momma’s boy at the moment. He also looks a combo of both of us. You definately can see me and my DH in him. We are big time into dinosaurs right now. We stomp and roar and chase… he is so much fun!
Post # 6
Oh gosh, I could have written this. I’m 30 weeks. I have two daughters, ages 3 and 4. I’m one of three girls. I cried when I found out it was a boy. Girls are just all I know and it’s been really upsetting for me. I’ve had health issues this pregnancy, so I don’t know if it’s just the combination of everything, but I feel really unhappy.
I’ve been told that gender disappointment almost always goes away when the baby arrives, but I worry that I’ll be an exception to that rule.
I have no helpful advice, just wanted you to know you weren’t alone.
Post # 7
I’m having a boy too, and even though I did want boys, I do eventually want at least 1 girl! I thought all along that this baby was a girl, so I think I had convinced myself and I was a little disappointed….but I’m so over it now.
All I have to say is hang around some teenage boys and then some teenage girls and that will make you less disappointed you are having a boy…hahaha. Girls may be easier when they are little, but I have a feeling boys are way easier as tweens/teens. I have 2 nieces, 6 and 4, and they are both complete little drama queens already! I love spending time with them, but when they are whiney about something..jeesh that’s not that much fun to be around. Plus I’m excited for a little boy to keep ME more active, too!
Unfortunately, it’s a 50/50 shot, so you just have to be happy with what you get. You will get there, it may take a little while, but after a month of knowing I’m having a boy, I’m completely in love with him and very excited. 🙂
Post # 8
@sept22insf: If it makes you feel any better, one of my coworkers has a boy and a girl… The boy is a perfect angel. The girl is a demon child. XD
Post # 9
@allyfally: lol! That does help actually 🙂
Post # 10
its awesome to have a little boy first.. esp when its your first child!!! Boys love their mamas sooo much… and he will be whatever you raise him to be! if you want himt o be outgoing enroll him in sports and set up lots of play dates to socialize him early!
Your are going to be an awesome mama to that little prince! Hope you get your little girl next time!
Post # 11
I wosh this wasn’t true but when I fiund out my first was a girl, I was disappointed. I even asked the tech to check once more. I wanted a boy so badly. But then time went on and I got used to it and started picking out clothes and bedding and all those baby things and I got really excited. When she came, it was the best feeling ever. I had forgotten that I originally wanted a boy. Now I can’t even picture what my life would have been with had I had a boy instead of her. She’s four now and the best baby ever (she’s still a baby to me!).
I promise you that you will soon feel the same way I do: How could I have ever lived without this little guy? I am pregnant with my second but don’t know the sex yet. I suppose I am “secretly” hoping for a boy but know that it really doesn matter because once that kid gets here, I will have that “what would I have done wothout YOU, little one?” feeling again.
Post # 12
I totally understand how you feel I have 2 boys and we are not having anymore. This saddens me but I’ve come to except it. I love my boys more than anything but to try again for a girl for me is just too risky as 3 boys would just be too much!!
Post # 13
I wanted so badly to have a little boy- and we did! Our little guy is 19 months tomorrow:) It’s weird- I’ve never wanted a girl. My Mom thinks it’s because I’m worried a daughter would be just as much trouble as I was when I was a teenager! lol We want another child, and again I’m deeply hoping for a boy. DH has always been fine with whichever gender.
Post # 14
@Holly77: I want 2-3 kids. I’d love to have 1 boy & 1 girl, but chances are we’ll have two boys. I’ve already informed DH that I won’t play the odds that #3 would be a girl if we’ve already had 2 boys so we’d adopt. That way I’d be guarenteed a girl 🙂
@sept22insf: Some boys are crazy busy, but I was a nanny for the SWEETEST boy last summer and he made me really want boys. Most of the girls I’ve nannied (older, 8-12) have been much more high maintenance than boys. Only one family had demon boys. And that was because the parents had a “boys will be boys” approach.
Post # 15
It’s funny reading PPs reasoning for wanting girls is the EXACT reason I want a boy. Our family is FULL of girls. I have 3 sisters and 1 brother. All of my first cousins and closest friends have girls. Also, DH has a DD. I don’t want anymore girls! Like you OP, I am worried that I’ll be disappointed if I have a girl but we’ll have to wait and see. I just never pictured myself with a daughter.
Post # 16
@sept22insf: @allyfally: I have 3 girlfriends in this exact situation. Nightmare girls, angel boys. I always wanted a girl first and foremost then a boy if we were lucky enough to have two children. Now my mind has totally changed.