(Closed) Having a bridal shower at my house…

posted 7 years ago in Parties
  • poll: How much money should I spend on the bridal shower gift?
    The same amount as I would have if it were elsewhere : (12 votes)
    92 %
    A little less : (1 votes)
    8 %
    Shouldn't have to get a gift at all : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    913 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I would spend the same amount of money on the gift as you normally would.  You aren’t putting up $$ for food or drinks, so its not too much of a cost out of your pocket.  I am one of 7 hosts for a bridal shower this weekend and we are all chipping in $150 and I am still spending the same amount of money I would normally on a gift.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1129 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’m a little confused.  You sound like you offered and now are having second thoughts for some reason…

    My opinion is that your offer to host is not related to the price / expense of the gift.  When you said “Hey, why not use my place?” it really shouldn’t have had strings attached… and since you aren’t putting up the cost of anything, that includes your purse strings. You mentioned that the party was putting your fiance out – didn’t he know you were offering this?  And “any plans you have” – were these not considered prior to your offer?

     

    Post # 5
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    9057 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’d probably do the same as I was intending to spend if it wasn’t at my home, because I would only offer for someone I was more than happy to provide a place to have a shower for, and wouldn’t think about the inconvenience, or dream of having any plans other than hosting/attending a shower for my good friend.

    It kind of sounds like you’re annoyed at being inconvenienced?  If that’s the case, take a little off it makes you feel better.

    Post # 8
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    913 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    Can’t your FI have an afternoon w/ the guys?  Pay for him to go golfing our grab some beers and lunch w/ his friends?  My FI would be slightly put off, but if he had some plans w/ friends or had to work, it wouldn’t really matter.

     

    Post # 9
    Member
    435 posts
    Helper bee

    It does cost money to have any event at your home.  You always have to provide little things like coffee, sugar, toilet paper, whatever.  I’ve hosted many events and I always end up spending money.  Plus you have to clean before and after the event.  I don’t think I’d offer my house though unless I really was close to the bride.  But, if you did it because there was no where else to hold the party and you don’t feel very close to the bride I can see where you would feel that you were contributing in another wayto the shower.

    Post # 10
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    9057 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Your update does make things make a lot more sense!  I think it was terribly rude of whomever considers themselves to be the “host” of the party to plan a party without fulling consulting the person whose home they’re using as a venue. 

    That said, I probably wouldn’t take it out on the bride… since she probably had as much input as you did as to where/when the shower might be.

    Post # 13
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    435 posts
    Helper bee

    Me too!!!!

    Post # 14
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    9057 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I agree that there will be costs involved, even if you’re not expected to provide any food/drinks.  I hosted my FI’s 30th birthday at a friend’s house last summer (we live in a teeny tiny condo), and as hard as I tried to remember to bring everything we needed, it was still like… “oh, my bannner…do you have tape?”, “do you mind if I borrow some of your cooking spray/tin foil/plastic wrap to cover this”. 

    I’d say just go with an item off her registry that fits your budget.  Most brides are sure to put a few items in the $20-30 range for shower gifts.

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