Post # 1
Hi Bees! Just for my own curiosity, knowing that my Boyfriend or Best Friend and I will probably be unable to have a reception of any size due to the inordinate cost, I was curious: Is it okay to just have a ceremony and invite all our friends and loved ones to that, without having a reception to follow?
I’ve looked everywhere and can’t seem to find an answer. Granted I’m still waiting, but like to know my options.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!
Post # 3
A “reception” actually doesn’t cost inordinately — and before you blow me off as utterly out of touch, let me clarify what “reception” means. It means that you greet your guests and offer them some sort of refreshment. Some ordinary working-class women host a “reception” every week: to whit, they provide the squares and coffee that routinely follow their church service or club-meeting or study-group.
What costs inordinately is a dinner-dance, cocktail party, or full-dress ball for hundreds; or even a restaurant dinner for dozens. But you don’t have to do that.
A sheet-cake from the grocery store ($25) and a $4 box of teabags will cover a small reception. If you have a whole couple of hundred to spend, get a nice tiered cake from the grocery store and provide coffee as well. And shake the hand of all those nice people who want to kiss you and say “oh, you make such a lovely bride”. It takes an extra 45 minutes and fulfills all the requirements of good hospitality.
Post # 4
You could just do a sheet cake and coffee in the church basement, if that’s a possibility. That’s what FI’s parents did for their wedding. I feel like your guests might want to spend some time to chat and congratulate you.
Post # 5
What about having your families (and maybe a couple of friends) bake a dessert?? I personally would love to bake cupcakes or cookies for a close friend’s reception.
Home baked goods + some punch mix (or coffee and tea) would be a wonderful reception. Good luck! 🙂
Post # 6
As PPs have said, cake and punch reception is where it’s at. Call in any favors you can, have a cupcake baking party, whatever you have to do, but it is definitely important to have some sort of reception to thank your guests for coming and socialize with them after the ceremony.