Post # 1
I dont’ know why, but i’m really sad and down today. Actually, I do know why! FI and I got in a HUGE fight last, but everything was ok when we went to bed. SO that shouldn’t still be bothering me, but it kind of is. (i hate fighting, especially how ours went down!) Then, i was on FB today, and decided to look at his ex’s profile (why do we set ourselves up for this?). Low and behold, a bunch of pictures of him and them together. Now i feel like shit. Why do I even look?! I know what i’m going to see and how it is going to make me feel. Now i’m sitting here, wondering WHY he is with me and not her still. I’ve always felt that they still had something (even his MOM said something about it the other day). it sucks. So i’m feeling pretty shitty about me and us right now. Ugh. Don’t know what to do right now. We have talked about her, so its pointless to say anything more, been there said that. And I know he chose ME (even though after they broke up he still tried to get back together with her), but i’m just feeling crappy about it all right now. Sorry for the rambling, but i needed to vent!
Post # 3
((Hugs)) I’m sorry that your having such a down day! I used to look at pictures of FHs x but I stopped because she is so different then me that I used to wonder why the heck he was with me! His mom saying something about it seems out of line to me (without knowing all of the circumstances) and I hope you feel better!
Post # 4
I’m so sorry, that totally sucks. Are you okay with the way your fight ended? It doesn’t seem like the issue feels resolved.
Post # 5
I’m ok with how the fight ended. We started fighting about something stupid (where to get our STD’s printed!) and then it just escalated! he said something jokingly (trying to make up I guess) about if I wanted to take off my ring (stupid boy!) and then I freaked! He didn’t mean anything and was trying to just tease me, but i wasn’t ready to be nice yet! so then we started fighting about that! Maybe that is why our fight still bugs me. I don’t like fighting with him and i was really mean last night! So I just feel really bad 🙁
Post # 6
Im with you. We went to bed last night kinda fighting too. I hate the feeling and I am SO sorry you are still feeling it today. How come men find it ok to make dumb comments and the most inopportune time?? Geesh
Its hard because it seems that men can get over it in a flash while we are still feeling it.
He did choose you and I find it a little odd that his ex still had pics of them still in her fb.
No worries, just try to communicate with him and see if you can feel better about it.
Post # 7
((HUGS)) it happens to the best of us, especially after the holidays are over and reality starts setting back in. M and I got into the worst fight EVER NYE and made up within 5 minutes (we’re idiots). But sometimes if you are stressed (about things like weddings and save the dates and exes or running too many errands and coming home late) then the stressors add up, you know? tonight perhaps make a great dinner, put your little one to bed, and just relax and watch movies :D….
Post # 8
Aw, honey. I think maybe it might be time to unfriend his ex. Having access to her photos is not doing you any favors. We all get down sometimes, and then we find ways to punish ourselves. I have found that it is best to limit the number of ways I can punish myself when I am feeling low.
Post # 9
Hey Rosie, I am sorry to read that your not having a great day. I just wanted to send positive vibes your way. Try not to worry too much about FI. If you already made up and things are cleared up, you’ll feel better soon. If your blaming yourself, maybe doing something nice for him will make the both of you feel better.
Post # 10
I’m sorry to hear you’re having a downer day Rose I agree with Lady B time to get rid of the ex’s facebook page. My fiance created a FB to communicate with me better when we first started dating and it didn’t take long for his trashy ex to find him. Now that we’re engaged (have been for almost a year and a half) she’s been leaving messages on his wall about how he’s ignoring her and I finally just stopped looking at his page so I wouldn’t have to see her begging him. The bottom line is your man is with you not the ex. If he really wanted to be with the ex I’m sure he wouldn’t have proposed to you. Have some confidence in yourself girl that ex has nothing on you
Post # 11
@ Rosie – awww 🙁 I’m sorry your day has been so crappy! DON’T look at his ex’s page!!! It is not healthy for you or your relationship. Unfortunately, if she has pics of him up on her page, there’s really not much you can do except choose not to look at it. It will only make you feel worse, and then you’ll start wondering about stuff (just like you mentioned) & it will only escalate. He is with you for a reason, just remember that.
It’s just like MtgBride0510 said awhile ago, how she would look at her FH’s ex & compare herself because she was so different! I’ve done that too! I think a lot of women have done that & especially when the ex is your polar opposite. It’s easy to wonder why they chose YOU but there is a reason & it’s probably because you ARE so different, in a good way!!! They don’t want another psycho or cheater or alcoholic, etc. so they went the opposite direction instead and found the right person 🙂
Head up, girl! Please take it from someone who has been there. Do not look at her page any more & don’t entertain certain thoughts. Focus on your soon to be hubby & how to make your relationship sweeter every day 🙂