(Closed) Having a friend or relative become an officiant

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

The law varies state by state.  We are having a friend do ours in NY – you can get ordained online for free here:

http://www.themonastery.org/?destination=ordination-form

Because we live in NYC, we also have to get our friend registered as an officiant at City Hall, which entails paying I think $35.  After that, we’re all set.

Check with your home city/state government website to see what you need to do.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

My godfather became a notary in order to marry us in the state of Florida. I know he had to take a test… but other than that he handled all the details.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

The first thing you have to do is make sure that it will be legal in your state/county. From what I gather, most places it’s completely legit but in others, you have to be an actual JOP or member of clergy to officiate a wedding. After determining whether or not it’s legal, the person you want to officiate can get ordained online for free. It takes like 5 minutes through Universal Life Church.

My cousin is in the process of getting ordained to perform our ceremony. 🙂

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

 My brother-in-law married us in Maine. According to their laws, he just had to register as an ordained minister at the website above. Took all of 5 minutes!

You can call the town clerk’s office in the town/city in which you are being married and they should be able to direct you a bit more 🙂

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

my brother in law was ordained through here for our cousin’s wedding http://ulc.net/. but yes. check your local laws

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Just throwing this out there:  FI and I considered this but shot it down because we wanted our friends and family to enjoy watching us get married, not stress about actually marrying us.  I’m not saying that an ordained family member/friend can’t still enjoy the experience, but it sure does add a whole extra level of stress and worry into the mix, especially if they’ve never done it before, or are nervous in front of crowds.  This isn’t just any speech they’re giving, you know? 

I do wish we had someone close to us who could marry us and was already ordained.  Sigh.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

i don’t know where you are getting married, but i know over here in MN… it’d be a difficult process. 

luckily for me, we are getting married in Florida. So my best friend got ordained through Universal Life Church online. I don’t want some total stranger performing such a memorable and personal task for us.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

@KristenGotMarried: I will say my godfather was insanely nervous before our ceremony so I see your point. But I also think it can be more special because they get to take an active part in marrying you.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We also used the Universal Life Church (themonastery.org).  Both our dad’s were ordained through there.  I ended up calling the Secretary of State’s office to ask about the official rules for ordination and we had to have a “certified letter” to be approved.  I also ended up calling the Universal Life Church to confirm with them what our state needed.  It wasn’t too difficult at all!

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