- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
…at my mom, of all people! She wasn’t particularly involved in any of our wedding planning (90% by design, 10% by her being distracted by other things), but all of a sudden in the days before the wedding, she started wanting to control EVERYTHING. She badgered my now-husband about exposed nails on the dock where we were going to have the ceremony. She lectured my aunt and uncle about when they needed to leave the beach house to be on time for various events. She even went so far as to tell my hair and makeup artist what she did and didn’t like about my trial (which she only saw in iPhone pictures, not real life) and what she should do differently this time, without even asking me – and that’s in addition to all of her own directions about what the makeup artist could/couldn’t do with her makeup! She and my sister were also more than half an hour late arriving to have their hair and makeup done, so instead of having plenty of time to get dressed and get a few bridal portraits, as I had carefully planned, I was in a huge, sweaty rush getting dressed and getting out the door to the ceremony. My mom forgot her glasses and was having contact issues so she was no help getting my dress fastened (my little sister had to do it), and looking at guest photos, the back of it was all wonky and bunched for my walk down the aisle! I know I should just get over it and be happy that, for all intents and purposes, our wedding day went about as smoothly as possible, but I am just so, so disappointed that my mom made ‘my’ part of the wedding day all about her and her issues, and added a ton of unnecessary stress to my plate (not to mention ruined some photo ops I was really hoping to have).
Just venting, I guess, but if anyone has any advice on how to let it go (and not b***h at my mom the next time I see her), I’d greatly appreciate it!