- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2011
So I’ve been trying so hard to not nag my BF about getting engaged in the last few months. Leading up to Christmas, I had strong suspicions that he was planning to propose over the holidays (he told me he had a couple gifts for me, but wasn’t sure if he’d be able to get my BIG gift by Christmas). I had those suspicions confirmed, but also disappointed, when he told me a few days before Christmas that he hadn’t been able to find a ring yet, but assured me he was still actively looking.
Anyways, fast forward to now, and since the holidays I have brought up engagement only once, when I was bored one night and sent him some links to rings I like (kind of a “just in case you’re still looking, here are some ideas” kind of email). Otherwise, I’ve really tried to be chill about it. But now with Valentines day and our birthday (both of us were born on Feb 13) coming up this weekend, I’m realizing just how high my hopes are for a proposal and just how devasted I’m going to be if it doesn’t happen. I know that he’s serious about marrying me, but he’s also easily distracted and kind of scatterbrained. What if he still hasn’t picked a ring (even when I’ve given him many affordable suggestions)?
I know if it doesn’t happen this weekend, I’ll need to talk to him so that I don’t bottle my emotions up and get bitter, but I don’t want to explode at him or make it bigger than it is. This is mostly just a vent so that I can get some of these emotions off my chest, but if anyone has advise for how to approach this conversation in a constructive manner, I’d appreciate it.