having a hard time telling them which dress

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What would you do?
    It's your day, grow a pair and tell them : (51 votes)
    34 %
    Be fair and ask them what they want (even though they might not tell you) : (15 votes)
    10 %
    Go with the Lace : (64 votes)
    43 %
    Go with the Dupioni : (19 votes)
    13 %
    They all suck - that's why you can't decide : (1 votes)
    1 %
    I have another opinion : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    2132 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Choose the dress you like and don’t worry about what they think.  It is just a dress- they wear it once, and no one is going to get hurt.  They might not love it, but they will get by.  

    As for which line that completely depends on your dress.  

    Post # 4
    Member
    7075 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think the lace dress is more likely to be worn again. Have you seen the dresses in person?

    Post # 5
    Member
    11668 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Go with whichever one you like better!  I think there are pros and cons to each.

    Pros for lace: more likely to be worn again

    Pros for the other ones: more likely to flatter all different body types

    Post # 6
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    839 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @MsGinkgo:  Considering you’re already allowing them to pick their own dress, I don’t think you have anything to worry about! 

    I voted for the lace because, like PPs have said, it’s more rewearable. But honestly, I think your BMs are lucky that you picked short, black dresses. There’s nothing more rewearable in my book. I’ve been stuck with way worse dresses (I’ve never been allowed to pick my own style). 

    Post # 7
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    2873 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    To be honest, when narrowing down dresses, I asked everyone what they wanted.  I got a corus of “It’s your day, what do you want?” back.  GRRR, so frustrating! If you have a favorite, say it, and most likely, everyone will nod and be cool. 

    I still have one bridesmaid that wants me to decide every detail for them.  I hate uncomfortable shoes, so I’m letting the girls pick out those so they have something that they can walk and be comfrotable in.  She wants me to find a pair for her that I like.  And for hair, I really don’t care what it looks like (other than nice), but I am paying for it to be done. I figure that all 4 of them are 27+ at time of wedding, so know how they look good.  Once agian, one of them really wants me to decide. 

    Post # 10
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    8518 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @MsGinkgo:  If you dont care if they’re matching, then why dont you let each of them pick what they want? 

    Post # 12
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    8518 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @MsGinkgo:  Are they giving you trouble about which fabric they want? 

    If I were you, I’d pick the lace and tell them to pick out of the 3 which they want. I just like the look of lace better personally. 

    Post # 13
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    3570 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would pick the top ones, only because I have tried on a lot of Alfred Sung dresses, and the fit is very odd.  Often the bodices feel too long, and the proportions are all funky.  My friend was set on them, but we just couldn’t find any from Alfred Sung that actually looked nice on a real person. 

    Post # 14
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    7075 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My MoH had a similar Alfred Sung dress and it did photograph a little shiny, just FYI. I’m almost positive it was that same material. (The wind was also not doing us any favors, lol.)

    Post # 15
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    3941 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @MsGinkgo:   The lace ones are lovely!!  Tell them what you want – I think you are being wonderful to them in allowing them to pick their style!!  Think of yourself as the leader!!  lol !!  

    Post # 16
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    2042 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @MsGinkgo:  My girls wore the alfred sung dresses and loved them.  They each did what you are allowing, picking their own styles.  I chose royal. This is what it looked like.

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