(Closed) Having a mad day

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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4974 posts
Honey bee

Aww don’t stress. Maybe she felt like she had to say it because it was expected that you may be upset because you have been with your SO longer or something?

Maybe she just thought that if someone she knew got engaged before her, if they had been dating someone longer, she may feel sore about it, so thought you might. I am sure she didn’t mean it in a nasty way.

Don’t stress about it. Just you wait until ALL OF YOUR BLOODY FRIENDS are married, or engaged! lol (Seriously I am the crazy unmarried one at just 28!)

Post # 5
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363 posts
Helper bee

Haha maybe you have mentioned in passing a long time ago that it bugs you to see other couples who have been together less time engaged before you? (like way before her engagement happened and she remembered). You could always respond by saying “Oh, I know :). I’m so happy for you and your new FI that’s exciting!” Just so she knows you aren’t mad ;]

Post # 7
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4974 posts
Honey bee

@VaVaVoomBee:  Ugh tell me about it. I am sure no one thinks your are pathetic. We need to just enjoy our unmarried years and show our friends whats what!

Post # 9
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4974 posts
Honey bee

@VaVaVoomBee:  Get drunk, stay out late, dance on tables, spank a load of cash on something pretty! Just enjoy it! 🙂 x

Post # 10
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4974 posts
Honey bee

**** with your SO – Not suggesting you got off the rails! lol ***

 

Post # 12
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289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’m sorry that that hit a nerve. It would for me too, I think. But then I would try to take it as “we’ll be so excited for you too when you get engaged!”

Post # 14
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466 posts
Helper bee

Don’t feel bad. These would be my responses on a scale from nice to honest:

^ (nice)
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| What did I do to give you the impression I was worried? I’m glad you’re happy with your relationship, but so am I, just so you know.
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| Just for that smug comment, I’m going to get engaged tomorrow. With a bigger ring. And “steal your thunder.” That’s what people call it, right?
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| *look of slowly dawning astonishment* It’s a miracle of science! Zero to smug relationship know-it-all in less than a DAY! Usually people wait until they’re actually married to start with that. Tell me, how did you manage it?
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v (honest)

Post # 16
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150 posts
Blushing bee

@VaVaVoomBee:  I recently got that comment from a girl who loved living off of the envy of others. Honestly I think she’s just really proud of this really important moment in her life, so just brush it off. If within like, 6 months, you’re still not engaged and she still makes smirk remarks like that, then it’s clear she’s rubbing it in your face.

 

Plus, if you’ve been together with your SO without a need for a ring to get as far as you have, then maybe she’s jealous of you 🙂

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