Post # 1
im not engaged yet and i think a big part of it is bf is afriad of a public wedding ceremony. He is a very private person, he does not share intimate details of his life with anyone. He’s also not big on having all eyes on him. he expressed to me that he does not want a big wedding which makes me sad. I love wedding shows and everytime he sees big ceremonies he says, ooo thats terrible more then 2 people is too many. now the wedding is all about publicaly declaring your love and i feel he should get over it and do it for me because he loves me! but then i also thought it might be fun to have a private ceremony!
so what are your thougrhts on a small ceremony where we hike to somewhere breathtaking and pure to celebrate and our love and make our relationship a forever thing? i would still want it to be like a traditional wedding, my daddy walk me to him and exchange vows in front of the select few. I still want to wear a dress and have pretty flowers. And then the following day or even later that day have a big reception with everyone we love and show a slideshow of photos from the hike and a quick video of parts of the ceremony. i told bf about this idea and he seemed to like the sound of it. what do you think??
Post # 3
That’s a great idea. I’ve seen several weddings that were set up this way and they looked great and worked well.
It’s the best of both worlds: an intimate ceremony and time spent with only the closest of family and/or friends, and a big celebration with all of those people you wish to share such a wonderful occasion with.
It’s a great way to get married.
Post # 4
It is not uncommon to have a small, intimate ceremony followed by a larger reception. Just make sure you are clear in the wording of your invitations so people know what they are being asked to attend.
Post # 5
@rissmama: I’ve been to a couple weddings that were private ceremony then big party later. Those are my favorite and actually what I plan on doing (also not engaged yet). But BOTH my SO and I don’t like big weddings, so I would make sure you’re not going to regret having a private ceremony.
I still plan to have flowers, wear a wedding dress, walk down the aisle, etc. but with only IMMEDIATE family there. You could always have it video taped and play it at your party 🙂
Really think about what you truly want in a wedding (besides being married, duh) and reach a compromise with your SO.
Post # 6
I went to a wedding with 11 people and then the couple had a big cocktail party after and had photos of the ceremony playing on a screen. I think it’s a great idea. Everyone seemed to like it 🙂
Post # 7
@julies1949: I’m following this because this would be our ideal scenario. Except we already have a venue for both ceremony/reception booked (same place for both), so we would just have a separate invite for immediate family to ceremony.
Post # 8
Seems like that’s a great compromise!
Post # 9
This is what we’re doing next month! Our ceremony will be immediately family plus two friends. Then we’re having a big reception in my hometown a week after the wedding, and another reception in FI’s hometown two weeks after the wedding. I think it will be wonderful!!