Post # 1
So randomly when speaking with my wedding planner, I was telling her I was a little worried about not being able to eat because it seems like people don’t leave the bride and groom alone during dinner.
She brought up some interesting ideas. She also told me she has noticed people who have head tables and place them in prominet place have less guest coming up to them. She said with the sweetheart table(that is what we are having) more people are apt to go up and speak to the bride and groom. She suggested either placing tables around us and making it little inconvient for people to get too. And something she been setting up recently for other couples who have a private space at thier venues, which is setting up the sweetheart table away from the main dining room.
Since we are having a sit down five course formal dinner, we would go in greet each of our tables, then slip out with the photographers let them take a few pictures then Fi and I would have 20-30 mins alone having dinner. She also suggested mingling have two courses, and then after the cake cutting slipping away to eat our main course if we didn’t want to leave during diner. I’m still mulling it over, and I think we can pull it off and it seems romantic and awesome first dinner to have as wife and husband. Anyone else heard of this?
Whoops I should have posted in reception!
Post # 3
i have never heard of this but it sounds good to me if that’s what you and your FI want 🙂
Post # 4
I haven’t heard of it, and personally I think it’s a bit rude. I would be annoyed if I came to a wedding and the bride and groom actually left and went to another room to eat dinner without all the guests that they invited.
ETA: Your guests are there to celebrate your wedding. Isn’t it weird for them to be celebrating without you even in the room??
Post # 5
@TwoCityBride: I haven’t heard of this but it sounds awesome. You could totally pull it off especially if your planner has done it before. It sounds very romantic, and you definitely need to make sure you eat. I thought my sister was going to die of starvation at her wedding lol we had to sneak food up to her room between the ceremony and reception.
Post # 6
@TwoCityBride: I’ve never heard of this. Honestly the title rubbed me the wrong way. You’re throwing a big party and then hiding from all of your guests.
But, if you come out in between courses so people don’t notice then its probably fine. I think what makes it ok is that you will have already greeted all of your guests before you eat.
Post # 7
I don’t think it is really necessary. People know that you would like to eat and as long as you have the entire meal time to eat, I really don’t think they are going to come up and bother you when everyone else is eating.
Post # 8
I’ve heard of the bridal party eating separately during cocktail hour but not during dinner. I agree with abbie017, it seems a bit rude to keep ducking out during dinner. We had a sweetheart table and other than my clueless 15 yr old cousin (who was pretty cute actually) no one really interrupted us.
Post # 9
I think I’d be a bit put off if I went to someone’s wedding and they went and ate privately in another room.
Post # 10
I think it seems rude. The reception is a chance for your friends and family to celebrate WITH you. I would not want to be so separate from everybody. I would be offended if I went to a wedding where the couple did that.
Post # 11
I don’t really like this idea. It’s like saying your guests aren’t good enough to eat with.
Post # 12
I’ve been to two weddings where the bride and groom did this and it was totally fine. The DJ just made an announcement that they were enjoying their first meal as a married couple alone. Everyone else ate in the main area and after the B&G were finished, they had the grand entrance and kicked off the dancing.
Post # 13
Yeah, I think this would be a little rude. I’m there to celebrate the bride and groom, and then they disappear to eat dinner away from the guests?
Post # 14
is there another way you can still eat in the same room as the guests but partially away from them? like in a roped off sort of area or something?
Post # 15
I to o would be a little put off by this.