Having a private wedding what about the wedding registry?

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
4941 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@kehl:  I would keep the registry, and people who want to buy you something will likely ask. There’s really no other way to tell people about the registry that aren’t invited to the wedding without it being against etiquette. 

We ended up eloping instead of having our August wedding, but family and friends still asked if we were registered anywhere and purchased from there. 🙂 


Post # 4
2546 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

there’s nothing you can do. if somebody wants toget you a present even though they’re not invited, they’ll ask you for registry info.


Post # 6
8503 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Sorry, there’s nothing you can do.  If someone wants to get you a gift they will either give you one or ask you where you are registered, and then you can tell them.

Post # 7
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

People will ask you or look up your registry information if they want to buy you a gift.  There is no need to send it out.

It’s very likely that you won’t get as many gifts since you’re having a smaller wedding.


Post # 8
4576 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

As everyone else has said: there is no way to “get them to access and buy from” the registry that doesnt involve you looking gift grabby.

If they want to get you something, they’ll ask you. If they don’t even know about the wedding since they weren’t invited, then they definitely are under no obligation to hunt down registry info when they find out.

Post # 9
3668 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

“The majority of people invited didn’t even know they are now not invited due to not sending out invitations.”

Did these people receive save the dates or anything? If so, you need to tell them that the plans for the wedding have changed.

“I started a wedding registry but how do I get people to use it if they are not invited?”

Are you for real with this? People are not likely to buy you gifts if they’re not invited to the wedding. If someone does want to buy you something, they’ll either ask you about where you’re registered or type your names into Google to find your registries. You can’t “get” people to buy something off of a registry, especially when you’re not inviting them to your wedding.

Post # 10
857 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Most people will not buy you gifts if they’re not at least invited to the wedding. Don’t tell them / notify them in any way, and don’t expect anything from them.

Side note: Did you do anything to notify the original 100? Save the Dates? Word of mouth? 

Post # 11
1951 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@cmbr:  I was kind of thinking the same thing on both of your points. 

OP, your guests need to be informed that plans have changed if you sent them a save the date, or promised them an invitation. In addition, you also need to not expect a gift from them. 

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