Post # 1
I have recently downsized my wedding from 100 people to a tiny private wedding of 15-20. The majority of people invited didn’t even know they are now not invited due to not sending out invitations. I started a wedding registrybut how do I get people to use it if they are not invited? I am having a very small private dinner an hour or so after the wedding. How can I get other family members and friends to access and buy from the registry. It’s only due to money that everything has been extremely downsized…any advice or suggestions?
Post # 3
@kehl: I would keep the registry, and people who want to buy you something will likely ask. There’s really no other way to tell people about the registry that aren’t invited to the wedding without it being against etiquette.
We ended up eloping instead of having our August wedding, but family and friends still asked if we were registered anywhere and purchased from there. 🙂
Post # 4
there’s nothing you can do. if somebody wants toget you a present even though they’re not invited, they’ll ask you for registry info.
Post # 6
Sorry, there’s nothing you can do. If someone wants to get you a gift they will either give you one or ask you where you are registered, and then you can tell them.
Post # 7
People will ask you or look up your registry information if they want to buy you a gift. There is no need to send it out.
It’s very likely that you won’t get as many gifts since you’re having a smaller wedding.
Post # 8
As everyone else has said: there is no way to “get them to access and buy from” the registry that doesnt involve you looking gift grabby.
If they want to get you something, they’ll ask you. If they don’t even know about the wedding since they weren’t invited, then they definitely are under no obligation to hunt down registry info when they find out.
Post # 9
“The majority of people invited didn’t even know they are now not invited due to not sending out invitations.”
Did these people receive save the dates or anything? If so, you need to tell them that the plans for the wedding have changed.
“I started a wedding registry but how do I get people to use it if they are not invited?”
Are you for real with this? People are not likely to buy you gifts if they’re not invited to the wedding. If someone does want to buy you something, they’ll either ask you about where you’re registered or type your names into Google to find your registries. You can’t “get” people to buy something off of a registry, especially when you’re not inviting them to your wedding.
Post # 10
Most people will not buy you gifts if they’re not at least invited to the wedding. Don’t tell them / notify them in any way, and don’t expect anything from them.
Side note: Did you do anything to notify the original 100? Save the Dates? Word of mouth?
Post # 11
@cmbr: I was kind of thinking the same thing on both of your points.
OP, your guests need to be informed that plans have changed if you sent them a save the date, or promised them an invitation. In addition, you also need to not expect a gift from them.