Post # 1
I’m in a weak moment right now. Engaging in risky behavoir. SO is asleep on the couch just feet away from me. All my issues are surfacing. I think I need counseling.
He told me his mom wants us to visit soon.
I don’t want to visit until I’m his FIANCE.
Afraid to say it.
Want to curl up and cry.
Post # 3
I don’t think you can keep his mom from visiting based on your relationship status… that’s not going to endear you to him or his family.
Post # 4
@missjuli: You’re afraid to tell your boyfriend that your ready to take your relationship to the next level?
Post # 5
Get up and go do something, sitting and stewing will make you feel worse! Have you met his mom before? Why don’t you want to visit with her until you’re engaged?
Post # 6
You should visit, consider this a baby step toward the next step (visiting as a couple). I don’t think you should hold back just because you want to get engaged now. That doesn’t make sense and will only make your relationship strained in you engage in these hidden ultimatums.
Post # 7
Yeah I think we need some more information here. Why don’t you want to visit with his mom until you are engaged? Most people meet each others’ parents while you are still dating, when things are usually serious. You should be happy he wants you to spend time with his mom, that is unless there are some family issues.
I hope you are feeling better though! I agree with others, you need to find something to do to keep your mind off of what is bothering you.
Post # 8
Um, seriously? Why?
Being engaged is somehting that comes along after two people feel they are ready to commit to each other for the rest of their lives.
It has nothing to do with visiting a relative.
I think you might need some help, sorry.
Post # 9
I left out some major details so you don’t understand the depth of the story so for that I understand your reactions.
I’ve spend lots of time with his family. I’m just tired of visiting as his girlfriend. We’ve talked about marriage to a great extent but we aren’t engaged.
You see, I’m “waiting” as this message board indicates.
I’m attempting to drop the subject which is why I couldn’t say what I feel. This is Mr. Bee’s plan that a lot of the women on here are attempting to follow.
I must have posted this as its own thread in error. Oops.
God Bless you all and have a good night.
Post # 10
@missjuli : Sucks, don’t it? You’re not alone darlin, you have at least one companion. And I work with his mom. Try and find the humor in it, it makes it a little easier.
If you need to chat in your desperate times you can always message me. I’m on here quite often 😉