Having a really hard time with my long distance relationship

posted 3 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Nikikita:  Ours took 10 months.  Have you had a job in the US for the past three years or have someone who can sponser him financially?  I was living and working in Taiwan the time we applied for my husbands visa and someone needs to be the sponser financially.  You have to send in your last three years of tax returns and recent pay stubs.  I didn’t have this since I hadn’t been living in the US for 3 years, so my dad helped us out.  (You are allowed to have a co sponser from immediate family).  My friend is also in the process of doing the paper work and are having a problem with not having a financial sponser.  We also had to send in tons of pictures of us and letters from people that know us to prove we had been together for years.

Just some advice from someone who just did the visa application.  Feel free to message me if you need any more help. 


About the long distance, I can’t really help you in that situation as the most ive spend apart from my boyfriend/fiance/husband is 3 months.  But good luck!! I really hope everything works out!! It isn’t an easy process but it is doable! 




Post # 4
3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

Long Distance SUCKS! No two ways about it.

My FI and I were LD for two years, and in that time, we only saw each other during one summer, with years on either end. The first year, I really struggled; the second, he did. But by that point we had both committed to leaving our homes and making a new home together here, so for me that made it easier.

There’s no way to predict the feelings you will have in a LD relationship, but just go easy on yourself! And don’t blame yourself for longing for the pleasures of an engagement! You’re in love! Of course you want that!

It will all happen. Try not to worry. The time will fly and before you know it, you’ll be together. (Now that I think back, it used to irritate me when my now-FI used to tell me that! lol.)

good luck! And don’t cancel your trip! You guys need to see each other!

Post # 5
2057 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia


Aw, welcome to WB and congratulations on your engagement! Your previous thread was deleted though. Nonetheless, based on your story, why don’t you pick a right-hand ring for yourself in the mean time? (Pst, that way, you could sneak into dress shops and try a dress.)

You two are technically engaged! It doesn’t make you any less engaged without a ring, if that makes sense.

Also, it also is very sensible that you are figuring out life together before getting married. The giddyness of wedding planning could sometimes distract from planning your lives together; at least that is what my FI and I are struggling with right now, given how sporadic/not-very-often we see each other.

Hang in there, lady! He will find something awesome and meaningful. 🙂 It’s probably a surprise worth waiting for!

Post # 9
1843 posts
Buzzing bee

Fellow LDR here. Sorry you are having a hard time. Long distance SUCKS. As a previous poster said :-/. SO and I spend a lot of time apart. He in Europe, I in the Caribbean. Adjusting can be BAD. Not only when you leave but also when you get together. He just got here a week ago. And the second and third day were terrible. We have to rediscover our relationship. And always someone is jetlagged, super tired, adjusting to completely different weather and cultures. Not easy but not impossible. Just try to keep in mind that it’s a process and you’ll feel more comfortable. 

Good luck girl. You are almost on the other side of the fence! Just a little more and you’ll be together! 


Post # 10
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Nikikita:  I’m not really sure.  You can probably call the immigration office and find out.  You can probably try to apply first with your current income, worse case they will ask for a co-sponser if they need the three years of tax returns and income statements.

Would one of your parents or a sibling be willing to co sponser?  It would just be awful to spend all the money on the visa (they aren’t cheap) to be denied for financial reason.  I think we paid  between $600- $700 before we were even asked to provide the financial support information.  


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