- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
*Sorry for the long post!*
I’m having a hard time with my long distance relationship, and just had to share what is going on.
So, a little background first.
I met my fiance in China when I was working there back in 2011. We were together for 11 months, before I moved to Taiwan to study Chinese. We were separated for about 7 months before I was able to see him for 10 days, and now we are going on 8/9 months separated before I can see him in the middle of January.
I recently returned to the States three months ago and we are in the process of filing Fiance visa paperwork for him to come over permanently. If things all go according to plan, he should be here anywhere from 6-10 months after we complete the paperwork, hopefully in Jan/Feb, so summer/fall of 2014.
We do pretty well with our long distance relationship, even though it was rocky at first… We are really stable, trust each other and communicate daily. However, I’ve been having a really hard time lately.
I’ve been helping my friend pick out her engagement ring and plan her city hall wedding & reception and I have to be honest, I have been obsessing over what ring I would like! Even though, he has said that I will have to wait until he gets to the States in late 2014 (both because of financial reasons and because he wants to do something special for me)
I think the reason behind my latest obsession is that my fiance and I have been so focused on keeping our relationship alive and the paperwork that I am really longing for a sense of the giddyness that comes with being engaged…
With the visa, we will have to be married within three months of him coming over, and I really wanted some time to show off my ring and be engaged! He can’t afford a ring right now and I know that he wants to pick it out for me and plan something special but I wish that I could just have something here especially since I know it will be at least another good year before I can be with him. 🙁
Also, please don’t get me started on just how terrified and excited I am to see him in January. I’m excited because it has been way toooo long, but at the same time I’m really terrified and almost want to cancel my trip because I know how hard it will be for me when I leave. And I know from experience that there is always an adjusting period where I’m cranky and irritable from missing him after I see him and we tend to fight a lot over nothing because of that…
I know that a ring is just material, and he has already agreed over the phone a couple of times that I can get something now if I really really want to. But I also know that he would really like for me to wait to do this for me. And, if he was here, I would be fine with waiting… Sigh
I hope that made some sense to people. I would love to hear any advice or if anyone has experience with LDR’s, what they went through…