Post # 1
Last night, DD projectile vomited for the first time since she was born. (She’s 9 months.) First in her bed–we gave her a bath, changed her sheets, put on clean jammies, and then walking back to her room, she threw up all over the Christmas tree and the floor. Then, a few minutes later all over the bathroom.
She’s fine–was just one of those random baby barfings, but it scared the crap out of me.
Then, she had her 9 month visit today, and her doctor was less than thrilled that she’s not saying “mama” or “dada” or pulling herself up to standing.
She had a blood test, and I turned into a crying mess in the doctor’s office. Thanks hormones, way to kick me when i’m down.
Plus, the new baby is due in 9 weeks. Everything is getting so hard! Holding her hurts my belly. I can’t get comfortable to sleep, and then we get up early and go all day.
I just feel like maybe I’m not doing enough with her, because I’m moving so slowly, and i’m so tired. She’s happy, and well adjusted–she patty cakes, and waves, and all of those other milestones, but she’s more interested in the dog and cat than me at this point.
DH is going to miss her first Christmas Eve. He probably won’t be home before 11p.m. any night until January.
I’m lonely. I’m tired. And some days, like today, I just feel like I’m screwing everything up.
Post # 3
@Quietserenity: I am sure you are not screwing everything up!! Every baby develops at his/her own rates, and it sounds like she is doing just fine. I am sure you are exchausted and trying your best to keep up. Don’t get down on yourself, just look at these 9 more weeks as time to spend just Mom/daughter before the new LO arrives. I am sure she is having a ball with the dog, and cat! Take everyday as it comes, I am sure you are doing great.
Post # 4
Is the kid clothed, fed, loved and housed in a safe environment? Then you’re doing a great job. You can’t control the doctor’s expectations or your kid meeting them or projectile vomit. Just focus on what you can control on days like these. If thoe first 4 needs are met – it’s a sucessful day. 🙂
Sorry DH is missing some milestones. I always read “Polar Express” to my sisters at midnight on Christmas Eve. DD will be asleep – but maybe just for fun you and DH can start a midnight tradition. Know that one day the whole family will be included.
Post # 5
I’m not a parent (but hope to be soon) but I just wanted to stop in and say that you’re not doing anything wrong, you’re doing a great job. Like a PP said, your baby is fed, clean, healthy and clothed. She’s doing great! Each baby hits milestones at a different pace. While she may be one of the later ones to stand, who knows, she may take off walking shortly thereafter, ahead of schedule. You’re doing a great job. Congratulations on a healthy 9 month little one and the baby on the way.
Post # 6
@Quietserenity: I have 3 kids. I’m pretty sure they weren’t saying “mama” or “dada” at 9 months. As for standing: some kids do, some don’t. My first child wasn’t even crawling at 9 months. Where is she now? She came top of her school and is now getting brilliant grades at University.
Your doctor is an insensitive clod for being “less than thrilled” because she’s not ahead on milestones. Because it’s perfectly fine to hit them slightly slower than average (so long as it’s not way behind average). That’s the sort of behaviour I’d expect from a competitive friend, not a doctor.
Post # 7
sounds like you could use a little help. maybe your husband could use a few vacation or PTO days and stay home to help entertain your 9 month old so you can catch a break. if he cant i’d call a friend or neighbor over to help. i know when i’ve been over-mommying i need just like a 2 hour break for myself to go get my nails done or just to go get a coffee and drink it in the car alone.
also, i think you need a new Dr.
Post # 8
@Lovemyfuturehub: This. In pre school, my son was labeled developmentally disabled, and would need to have an IEP (individualized education plan.) I was heartbroken, for they didn’t see the brilliant little guy I did. As of now, he is a 3.91 student in college. Good things come to those who wait:)
Post # 9
@Quietserenity: “Then, she had her 9 month visit today, and her doctor was less than thrilled that she’s not saying “mama” or “dada” or pulling herself up to standing.”
Umm my DD didn’t say those words till like 1 years old. The doctor told me the same thing. I laughed and said she’s just quiet. Now she is almost two and talking non stop! lol It’ll come. Some kids are just quiet.
If she is happy, well fed, clean and safe enviorment you are doing great! It sounds like you need a break. I am sorry it is rough right now. Hang in there.
Post # 10
Thanks everyone. DH’s schedule will calm down in January, he doesn’t have any PTO days for this year (he just started there in August). He’ll have a nice chunk starting January 1st, and then we’ll take some days to breathe, and get ready for the baby. It’s just these last couple of weeks that I’m struggling with.
As far as the baby goes, thank you for the reassurance! She sat late, and I worried about that, but the talking thing totally threw me. It wasn’t even on my radar to be concerned about yet!