Post # 1
I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and he has this problem. I have learned to accept it is apart of him, but at times it can be so frustrating that I feel almost as if I am dating a little kid. I love him for it because it gives him his really goofy and hilarious personality, but at times when he does not take his medication it can be a ticking bomb waiting to go off in my mind. I try so hard to ignore the little things he does to get attention that bug me to the point it literally puts me in a pissy mood. So, if there is anyone else out there who has a SO dealing with this in their personal life, how do you cope and deal with it? Its been hard for me, and I wanted to reach out to see if anyone else has this issue. We do plan to get married, and I have my 3 year old son involved, who is not his son. I just wanted to see if it can affect my son, or if anyone can help me out on what I can do to keep myself calm when my SO wants to pick at me, lol. When he does take his medication, by the evening he is a complete angel and is as quiet as can be! lol. I love him to death and he is my bestie, but dont get me wrong… This stuff is a hard thing to deal with. Thanks for the posts and advice, I would love to hear from you all!
Post # 3
My Fiance has ADD. He doesn’t have the hyperactive component that you seem to be describing. With him, it tends to manifest itself as starting 349,489 different projects. He’ll work on them all, but never really finishes any of them. I can’t say much, since I tend to do the same thing. He doesn’t really take his meds except when he’s in school and needs to concentrate on one thing at a time, like studying. I just see it as that’s how he is. He makes himself lists to keep himself on track and that really seems to help him concentrate on what is most important to get done that day/week/month.
Post # 4
He sometimes does that too when he is going away to pack for a hunting trip, which he left yesterday for that. And sometimes he will finish cleaning his house after work, and then after he is done with that, he cannot stop doing stuff around his place once he starts a task. It will go from doing dishes, to ohh I gotta hang up my clothes, to something that does not need to be finished until a week later, lol. It does not bother me much, but sometimes I wish he could slow down and just relax and take a small break and hang out with me, lol. I understand how men are, they like to fix things and get things done. I just sometimes let him get it out of his system, afterall, it is a learning process. I have tried to read about it a little, but its still confusing. How do you actually deal with his ADD though? Like on your personal level to keep yourself sane? lol. Mine has a tendancy to have a big mouth and likes to blurt out things just to put the icing on the cake, lol.
Post # 5
@Mswaitingbee: I don’t have a SO with ADD…. I have it myself. I wish I was diagnosed sooner and not at almost 48 years old. It’s like a whold new world has opened up to me, I’m no longer forgetful, my mind can focus on tasks and I’m productive.
My psycologist explained my diagnosis very simply. ADD is a chemical imbalance in the brain. You don’t produce enough dopemine in the executive part of the brain. The executive part of the brain filters the information that comes through. Think of it like you’re a CEO of a company and the job of your executive secretary is to filter all the information that comes into the office. She only gives you the important stuff and weeds out all the uneccessary stuff. It’s like there’s a TV in your head and the channels are constantly changing from one to another. I hope this gives you a better understanding of what your bf goes through. Please try to be patient with him, he doesn’t do these things on purpose.
I understand you’re frustrated with him when he doesn’t take his meds but let me ask, Why doesn’t he take them everyday? Doesn’t he want to function at his best everyday? On the days he does take them be glad he’s getting things done no matter if you think he should relax or spend time hanging out with you. The meds are making him focus and he wants to get tasks done. Plus they also give you a boost of energy. If you had a cup or 2 of coffee can you sit down and relax? No, you have energy and can’t just turn it off. Just be a bit more patient and understanding with him.
Post # 6
I have adhd as far as tourettes. Has he considered going back to school? If I were you I would be more patient with him and try maybe ask him why he dosent take his meds everyday.