(Closed) Having a rough day..

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think a large number of brides go through this. I know I did at least.

My first suggestion is write down how you picture your day. Show it to Fiance and see what differs and compromise on making it right for the both of you. Then write down a list of things you need to do to make it come true .

If youre not a diy type of person, dont diy. Half the time DIYing it is more expensive then just buying already made stuff. 

It sounds like you have a lot of people willing to help, so once you have your list down, sit down with a few of them and ask them if there is anything on the list they would be willing to help with.

And lastly, you must be beautiful or your Fiance wouldnt be marrying you. So always remember that. Doll yourself up, do something that makes you feel awesome about yourself (whether it is swimming, having sex, or singing) and then go try on your dress again. As long as you feel beautiful in it, others will be happy. 

Post # 5
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

That sucks, I’m sorry.  It’s hard to not have your support-network so far away, especially during something as stressful as wedding-planning.

I must say, I went dress-shopping with my best friend and her family for her wedding and no one had any of those emotional reactions even though she looked beautiful in each dress; once we found THE dress, we gushed about how it was perfect for her (because it was absolutely perfect for her beyond what any of us could have expected) but no one cried, and if I recall no one even called her beautiful even though she was.  No one told her she’d be a beautiful bride, either, but she was.  I was too if I do say so myself, with my first marriage, but no one told me I would be.  Maybe the groups you and I run with just don’t say things like that, but now I’ll remember to say it if I think it!

My friend also called on us to help her get things done.  I think you should sit down with a list of all the elements of your wedding that you want to get done and figure out what still needs to be done.  Talk to the people who have offered help and throw out the things you still need help with; ask them for ideas.  I bet you’ll get ideas and offers coming at you and you can take some of this stress off of your own shoulders and delegate tasks to people who have offered to help.

It will be over soon, sooner than you’ll want it to be.  You will love every minute of the party itself.  If you love your fiance, you’ll be so happy you can’t fail to be beautiful.  I know that’s a cliche but it’s true, I have yet to see an ugly bride because I have yet to see a bride who isn’t happy to be marrying her man.  I’m lucky like that.  It will be okay.  Take some time off for yourself, take some time off to be close to your fiance, and remember that ten years down the line most of the details that are stressing you out now won’t even register anymore.

Post # 6
1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Oh no my post got lost on your other thread that got deleted! It seems like everything got all messed up when the site was down for a bit. I’ll paste what I wrote.

Aw I’m sorry you’re feeling that way. Cheer up! Or have Ryan Gosling cheer you up:

wedding Craft

But seriously, at the end of the day, you will be married to the love of your life and that’s all that matters! And I am sure you will be a beautiful bride!

Post # 8
19 posts
  • Wedding: July 2012

You’ve been engaged for TWO YEARS! and still have 5 months to go!  I think that’s part of your blues.  Being engaged/planning a wedding for two years would add a lot of stress I think.  There is no way I could wait that long.  I feel like there’s a planning lull for my wedding and we will only be engaged for a year.

Post # 9
361 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I also feel like part of the problem is that because of the media and the internet we all feel like there are these *shoulds*  that you have to be doing/accomplishing to have a perfect wedding. Don’t let it get to you, there is no one way for things to happen. 

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