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    Miss Lily    August 1, 2008   TX

    Anyone else far from home for Christmas? I'm 1600 miles from my family and it's so hard to get into Christmas. I'm trying but all I have done all night is mope around and cry. Poor hubs. He just doesn't get it and he has no idea what to do. :( I sure hope this crap stops. Soon.

     
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    jennifer_espos    June 18, 2010   NYC

    I'm sorry luv, that is difficult.  I'm sure your hubby just wishes he could make you feel better.  I hope he's being supportive. 

    I'll be going home for Christmas but I'd be bummed too if I couldn't make it.  Is there a way to celebrate it with your family another time? 

     
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    Lees4308    March 13, 2010   Panama City Beach, FL.

    Aw @Miss: I am SO sorry! I couldn't even imagine being that far away from family!

    I live in FL & my fam in AL. So they're only about 5 hrs away, so I've never had that problem, but I honestly don't think I could survive with them being so far away...so I can understand girl!!

    Is this the first year you've been apart? It's so crazy how much you realize how important family REALLY is as you get older...they're my lifeline, and really the only people I can trust!

    Hope you get through this OK girl. We're all here if you need us!

     
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    Jessie516    May 16, 2009   Ann Arbor, MI

    Big Hugs, Miss Lily!  I am away from my family for the first time at Christmas and it's been hard.  I will see them on Christmas day, but not until much later in the day at a party with my whole family.  I love my ILs, but it's making me sad to know that my mom, sister and brother are 4.5 hours away and I'm not there!!  I saw my family last weekend and I started crying in the car on the way home.  I don't think my husband knew what to say, because there really wasn't much that could make me feel better.

    I am just hoping that this will get easier.  Also, I'm hopeful that eventually, we will be able to have our holidays at our own house instead of travelling.

    Hang in there, Miss Lily!  I hope it helps to know you're not alone!

     
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    GirlWithARing    September 5, 2010   Living in NYC, marrying in Philadelphia

    This is my first year spending Christmas away from my family, so I am having trouble getting into the spirit as well. Hope it gets better for you!

     
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    Miss Meepsie    01/15/10   NYC

    FH is away from home this year for the holidays (and actually, nearly every year since we started dating seriously).  It's hard for him, I can tell.  I always try to incorporate some of his family traditions in with my own.  Since he started staying east with me for the holidays, I cook his family's x-mas eve dinner every year and we have everyone over our place - so that at least he can have some tradition.  Is there anything similar that you could do to bring a little bit of "home" to the holidays? 

    I know that eventually, once we are married, especially if we have kids, we will someday have to do a big holiday out west away from my family.  It's already making me sad since my family is very tiny and would definitely be drastically smaller without FH & I there, whereas his family is HUGE so we're not missed quite as much (though I'm sure we're missed). 

    Holiday hugs to you. 

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    I'm sorry you are having a hard time!  We are far away from our families this year too.  The past 4 years we had Christmas with his parents since we lived right there but we don't have money to fly back right now so we are at our house alone.

     
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    rofarrell    June 19, 2010   Lafayette, IN

    (((hugs)))  I hope you have a happy holidays through this!!!

     
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    BubblyBride    March 20, 2010  

    Aww.  (((BIG HUGS)))  I spent one Christmas away from my family, years ago, and I know how lonely it can be.  I'm sure they know you love them, and are thinking of them.

    Hang in there, and happy holidays!

     
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    Miss Lily    August 1, 2008   TX

    Last year we went home for Christmas, but this year we bought our new house and we just can't afford to drive home, or fly with 2 dogs. It really is the best decision for us to stay home, but it sucks! I just don't see any point in celebrating a huge deal. I mean, a nice dinner for the 2 of us is ok, but I don't see the point of all the hoopla. I dunno. Maybe I'm nuts...

     
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    Superstitions    July 25, 2009   TX

    I know how you feel. My family is in Texas and I'm in Indiana. I haven't done a single Christmas related thing besides the obvious gift shopping.

    Also, his family does Christmas in a different way. We live with the in-laws and I looked downstairs one day to find the tree already up and I had really wanted to help with that. We haven't gone out to look at lights or done anything together. But we're also going through in-law issues right now. We're trying to fix it, but it's put a huge damper on Christmas.

    In my family, my mom finds a time where we can all help put the tree up and decorate. I get reluctantly dragged along to look at Christmas lights and I even miss that. We used to make fudge every year too.

     
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    crebre80    November 20, 2010   Baton Rouge, LA

    ((HUGS)) is there anyway that you and your hubby can make a new tradition? if you have a fireplace can you make smores?  can you go door to door carolling? go to a midnight matinee?  on christmas day can you go to the movies or just lay in bed in your pj's?  i'd say fill your time with things you could never do with the fams and go and rock out... due to financial issues we won't be able to go home either :(... i'm holding out hope for a christmas miracle... if all is fails there are quite a few of us on the board in the same situation and we'll be here with hugs...

     
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    Miss Lily    August 1, 2008   TX

    I have to work night shift Christmas Eve-day after Christmas...so we will end up hanging out all weekend doing our own thing. At least I will be working nights and sleeping during the day. ;)

     
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    daydreamwanderer       DC

    I feel ya! Being far away from family makes the holidays not feel like the holidays at all. I can't believe it's actually almost Christmas... it feels unreal!

     
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    Miss Lily    August 1, 2008   TX

    Well, to update you ladies...

    We had a ham and mashed potatoes dinner tonight just the 2 of us and opened gifts with the dogs. :) It was so nice. dinner by candle light.

    Last night I got to talk to my grandma via webcam, and that was a MAJOR help. I spent a lot of our conversation crying my eyes out like a baby. It was really nice to be able to see her and hear her voice and just have a good conversation with family and get some reassurance...I dunno, about life, about my family remembering me? I don't know. It made me feel a million times better.

    Hubs said it made me seem like I feel a lot better now too. I think I was getting depressed. :( YIKES!!!

    Now we're spending our night watching the old Christmas cartoons!! :) Have a good night ladies! :) Thanks for all your encouragement and support!! :)

     
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    cinemaparadiso    July 16, 2015  

    Aww, glad that helped!! I'm sorry you're so far from your family, but it sounds like you've got a wonderful husband to celebrate with!

     
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    His Barista    September 4, 2010   Spokane, WA

    This is my third year away from family. The first year all I did was wake up Christmas morning and cry. I wasn't with FI yet, and I felt really alone!

    It's still hard, but hopefully next year when we move it will be easier!

     
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    Miss Lily    August 1, 2008   TX

    I can't wait for the next few years to be done!!! :( this is awful being so far from my family. Hope your Christmas is wonderful :)

     

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