Post # 1
Death to facebook-
Last night 3 guys I have dated before are either engaged or married now (as in the last 10 days)… and of course I had to go look at their page. Definitely put me in a funk… and I almost erupted and said something to him (V-Day challenge is still intact since I held it together).
I maintained it all together though and keep it away from SO- he has NO idea I was crying last night… but all of everything combined just has me really wondering—- I am trying to stay positive, because I know what our situation is and why he hasn’t proposed yet BUT I can’t help but wonder, if he really wanted me, he would have done something by now.
Waiting makes no sense to me really- I don’t get it. Now we are dealing with paying for a deductible for the car break in, his father is in the hospital for the stroke, and some other randoms… I honestly feel like my proposal is going to get lost in the shuffle and delayed until like the end of this year or even next year.
I am annoyed, sad, frustrated, and just so over this.
Post # 3
Awww it’s okay! I know exactly how you feel. My parents split a few years ago and were both engaged to new people within a year and a half, AND within a few months of eachother (Mom in December, Dad in February). As if that wasn’t hard enough, at that time my SO and I had been together 4 1/2 years, living together for 1 year, with a dog and all! I thought for sure I’d be the next one with a ring on my finger, but nope, I wasn’t.
Upstaged by my own parents… BOTH of them!
At first I didn’t even want to attend my mom’s wedding, I thought for sure that I would be far to bitter at my own situation to be able to enjoy hers.
But I will tell you that life goes on, the feelings you are feeling now will fade, and you will realize that other people’s timing is just that, THEIR timing. You guys have a lot going on right now, and have been through a lot together already. Don’t dismiss any of that by comparing it to other people. Be happy for them, or delete them from your friend’s list.
Our time will come 🙂
Post # 4
@armychica06: Does he have the ring or did you pick one out together? I have cried many a night and still continue to do so. He always knew why(I can’t hide my feelings and thoughts too well). Hang in there honey, V-day might bring something but whatever you do DON’T SET YOURSELF UP for disappointment! Can’t tell you how many times that happened to me! I gave an ultimatum and I highly suggest you DON’T do that,didn’t work out to well for me lol! The best thing you can do is be quiet, very quiet and wait and see even if it kills you! He will go the opposite direction if you bring it up,trust me I’ve done it. Hang in there,keep yourself busy and try not to think about it. When ur feeling down come talk to us bees ((((hugs))))
Post # 5
@armychica06: Girl, I know how you feel! Sometimes I really hate Facebook because of that. I’ve had a few people post their engagements and weddings and it’s hard to deal with sometimes. Luckily most of my friends are already married so hopefully there will not be anymore engagement status updates for a while! 🙂
It sounds as if he will propose, but he’s just waiting for the right time. Maybe it will be sooner than you think. So hang in there!
Post # 6
@sunshine8: We went to Tiffanys and I picked out the one I wanted around Thanksgiving, but since then a lot of money issues came up and unexpected misfortunes. He was going to take his income tax refund check to purchase the ring but I am not even sure if that is going to happen now and I don’t even feel comfortbale spending that amount of money at this present moment and I think he agrees.
I told him that we should get something cheaper and picked out a few other rings, but he is stubborn and wants to get the one I initially asked for. He will eventually have the money for the ring but I want any ring now just to have the proposal official and of course he isn’t thinking that way.
Post # 7
@armychica06: I’ve got 8 sets of friends (16 freakin people! – and I don’t know that many total :P) who have gotten engaged and/or will be married by this coming June. Of course I have been feeling the same as you – why not me? what’s wrong with me? and so on, and PMS does nothing to help with those feelings… BUT, as our mutual friends do tie the knot, and show their happiness and excitement, I am hoping that their experiences pursuade my BF into understanding WHY they are excited and that marraige is NOT a death sentence for a man. It’s not easy to see others moving at what appears to be a quicker pace through parts of their lives than you are, but it’s not a race (I keep telling myself), and the important thing is to try to be happy with your SO, NOW. I’ve realized that while I’ve had the marraige bug for a while, the upcoming nuptiuals did not help my feelings for a while, but made me a wreck who was not fit company for a cat.
If your SO knows what you want for the future, all we can do (sigh) is back off for a bit, and try to let him do it. I’m sorry so much other stuff has cropped up since the new year for you, and can see how that is a big frustration in getting things on track as far as an engagement and wedding. I hope things get better for you guys – maybe a few simple comments about “for better and for worse” might get him thinking?
Post # 8
Thank you ladies- I just need to come and vent so I don’t go to him with this. I have been doing VERY well- last time I brought up a proposal was sometime in December when I found out it wasn’t going to happen. I know for a fact I can keep my mouth shut on the whole thing since we have a lot going on and I have a few other things to focus on presently, especially now that I found you girls to vent to, but I am not sure I can stop the resentment from creeping up.
Post # 9
@armychica06: Wow… I’m so sorry that you’re having such a rough time right now. Just trust & believe that things will get better. I know it has to be hard though… going from knowing that he’ll be able to get the ring next month to wondering if it will possibly be pushed to next year. I’m so sorry, doll… I really can’t even imagine what you must be going through along with everything else.
I do find it endearing that your SO is stlll adamant about getting you the ring that you want. I know that at this point, you’d rather have the official proposal than to wait for your top ring choice though. Hang in there.