Ok – as promised, I’m back. There is so much advice out there, and really until you have spent days, weeks and months with this new small human who has taken over your life – it’s a process that you’ll just have to figure out, and roll with the punches. No doubt is is HARD. Harder than I ever imagined. Our first few weeks I can safely say were some of the worst days of my life. I hate saying that, but it’s the truth. I was trying to recover from major surgery (C-Section), cought a nasty cold in the hospital which had me coughing non stop, pain meds that made me feel worse instead of better, and a baby who at the time felt like he stole my life right out from under me.
In an instant my life was different, my marriage was different and my freedom gone. Again, I hate saying it, but those first few days and weeks I wondered what I was thinking having a baby, and wanted to undo it all. Things will get better. I promise that. You really have to go into survival mode, get through each hour and day one at a time. Ask for help from anyone who is willing to give it – parents, friends, neighbours. Even if those people cna just hold the baby while you shower or take a quick nap, help with the dishes, prepare a meal for you – all those things are like heaven those first few weeks. On the weekend as a parent (if they are available to you!) to come over and help make freezer meals for the week. If you have a slowcooker, this will become a very good friend. In the morning you can dump a bag of prepared freezer meal into the cooker, hit on, and dinner is ready for later. Which leads me to my next point.
EAT. Drink lots of water. Those are your fuels, and you need them to get through these hard times. I barely ate my first few weeks and really believe that eating would have really helped.
Try the gas drops, Cocyntal or Gripe water for your baby, see if they help. Burp every ounce if you can (if you are BF’ing, take small breaks). Do the bicycle legs often and see if that helps. Sleeping will come. People always told me “sleep when the baby sleeps!”.. I never could. When the baby slept, I put on clothes, tried to eat, shower, clean up the disaster of a mess I’d created with said baby and by the time that was done- baby was awake. If you can nap though – do it. I just never could be that person, still can’t do it!
I know it sounds horrible, but getting 4 hr sleep at a time is actually really good LOL. We were doing 1-2 hours every day and night, until about 4 months. It was brutal. Some days I broke down and was a mess, thought we’d never make it. I would have given my left arm for a 4 hour stretch. Just keep saying – this too shall pass. My mom kept saying that and I wanted to hit her, but it’s true. They get older, sleep better and longer, and don’t stay little for long.
I wish I had cherished those first few weeks more than I did – I wanted them to be over, for him to get bigger. I see little babies now and wish I had just taken the time to cherish him when he was that small, and not be so frustrated. Granted, I had some serious PPD which didn’t help. Good luck hun, it DOES get better. It really does. Take lots of pictures,and ask for as much help as you can. There is no shame in it. People LOVE helping new moms and babies, so ask ask ask ask ask. :):) XOXOXO PM me if you ever want to chat!!