(Closed) Having a tea length dress on a Black Tie Wedding? Yes or No?

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I say go for it! My wedding is former, but not black tie, and I’m changing in to a shorter dress and red heels towards the end of the reception.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

From a google search:

“For women, an invitation to a black tie event means wearing a long, floor length evening dresses or evening separates.”

So I think it would be a little weird if you, as the bride, were not even technically in black tie attire for your own event. What’s the opposition to having a black-tie optional dress code? From my experience, it’s just as formal but it just means that technically people are also allowed to wear suits and cocktail dresses.


Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Oh, and I forgot to comment about your bridesmaids. I think it would be fine if you were wearing a cocktail dress for the reception even though your BMs would be in full-length. But that only really makes sense if you wear a full length gown for the ceremony like you’re planning to do.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

I thought tea length was mid-calf?

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would say to stick with the long dress the whole time.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I was just going to comment but @scissors beat me to it…I left a note your your same thread several minutes ago here .  Now looking at your dresses I think those all fall under ‘cocktail’ dress attire as ‘tea length’ does mean below the knee.  If you’re choosing to wear cocktail attire I think your best dress above is the first picture as that looks most ‘black tie-ish’ – – – I don’t think it matters what the bridesmaids are wearing, I still stick with what I left on your other thread, its your day and you get to make the rules Laughing

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

yeah, I don’t know about changing into a short dress if the dress-code implies the women should wear long gowns …

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think you should stay in the long dress since you’re asking all your female guests to dress in long formal dresses.  If you want to wear a tea/cocktail length dress, then I suggest not calling it a “black-tie” event.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I agree with previous posters. From my POV, ettiquite calls for you to follow the same rules you impose on your guests.

Are you worried about your comfort level? If so, that is totally understandable, but also something you should consider for your guests as well. If you think you will be uncomfortable, chances are they will be too. I vote stay with the long dress OR make it “black tie OPTIONAL” to be fair to all your guests.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

Eh, I say do whatever you want!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

i think that if you are asking your female guest to follow the ettiquette and wear a long dress then you should do the same. i think that if you will call it a black tie then you should stick to the long dress. this is my opinion

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m totally open minded when it comes to doing things your way for your wedding but if you’re asking your guests to dress Black Tie I don’t think it’s appropriate for you to dress differently especially if your bridesmaids are wearing gowns. Is there an option to change the information on the invite? Specify formal instead of Black Tie?

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