Post # 1
So we are getting married this Sunday (yay!). We are having a super small, very casual wedding with 24 guests – all our immediate family and only our closest friends.
Since my wedding is on a Sunday, my hairdresser has made speical arrangements to come in on a day they are typically closed JUST to do my hair (which is super generous of him and I am so grateful). My best friend is going to see him for the first time on Friday to have her hair cut & colored and just told me that she is planning to ask him if he can do her hair on Sunday as well. I asked what she planned on having done and she is getting a fancier updo than I am. I would like to reiterate that this is a SUPER casual wedding. Hell, my FI is wearing JEANS & a suit jacket.
She also mentioned that she is planning on wearing a red dress to my wedding, because its FESTIVE. I specifically chose peacock colors so that i could stay away from the Christmas look and she is well aware of that.
I am quite sure that this is me being a crazy bride 3 days before my wedding but seriously, this is the icing on the cake with this girl! I also have a sneaking suspicion that her Boyfriend is planning on proposing on our wedding day. I’m just so angry at her right now!
Post # 3
@FutureMrsA2014: ugh ugh! I get why you feel pissed. But I’ve learned here that you can’t tell a guest what to wear at your wedding (even though sometimes we wished we just buy a dress for them so they can shut up). The only thing you can do is tell him what you’d like, but at the end of the day is her choice.
Congrats on your wedding! 😀 I am sure you’ll have an amazing time!
Post # 4
@FutureMrsA2014: While you may be overreacting a tad, I don’t think it would hurt to say something to her. No one should upstage the bride on her wedding day. If she’s a good friend, she’ll understand and won’t do a big updo or wear the red dress. Plus, couldn’t your hair dresser just say he’s booked?
Post # 5
First – 3 days!!! Super exciting. It’ll be awesome. Try to take a moment, now and then, to really take everything in, because it’s so fast!
I can understand while you’d be annoyed, but I really don’t think it’s worth it to do anything about it. She’s probably just excited about the wedding and wants fun hair. Or maybe she has a standard style that she usually gets for special occasions. Or maybe she saw something that she really wants to try. Regardless, it likely has nothing to do with you and you shouldn’t take offense. And, I hate to say it, but if you wanted her to avoid certain colors, you should have told her that in the begining. Given the time of year, I might have gone with red as well. Luckily, I think that peacock and red would go great together!
So vent here and grumble to your fiance. But then get over it. It’s not worth getting stressed or upset. Just enjoy your day. Because that’s what’s most important.
Post # 6
The hair thing would annoy me but I guess I don’t see what is wrong with wearing a red dress? A guest wearing red isn’t going to make your wedding look Christmas-y if you have peacock decor.
Post # 7
I understand those bridezilla moments because I definitely had a few myself.
You cannot control the hairstyles or attire of your guests so I suggest just letting this slide and focus on something else.
Post # 8
I would let it go.
One of two things will happen… everyone will notice that she’s trying to outstage you and raise an eyebrow/talk about her, or nobody will notice her at all and her plan will be foiled.
I don’t think the hair is such a big deal… I’m sure you’ll have a few guests who do their hair so nicely that it looks professional, maybe even updo’s! I am having my hair down & curly.. if someone wears an updo thats perfectly fine with me! Even if it’s just a fancier one.
Nobody will forget that you are the bride!
Post # 9
@FutureMrsA2014: Congrats on the wedding! Is she a bridesmaid? If not, I would not say anything about it. You are the bride- you will be the one to stand out for sure! You can’t control what your guests wear- yes she should have been more careful if you already expressed your wishes, but if she’s not a BM I wouldn’t say anything else about it.
Post # 10
I agree that she is being really annoying, but you can’t really say anything to her without sounding like a brat. Anyways, I doubt you’ll even notice her dress/hair on your actual wedding day because you’ll be so wrapped up in other things.
As for the possible proposal – that is VERY shady!! Why do you suspect this might happen? I would NOT be ok with this at all and would probably have the two of them thrown out is this happened. That is just unnacceptable!
Post # 11
Thanks Everyone! I mostly just needed to vent! At the end of the end of the day I will be marrying the man of my dreams and whatever she does shouldn’t impact my day. I just wish she was more respectful of my choices. I know shit would hit the fan if I pulled this for her wedding. Oh well!