Post # 1
I am against having kids at the wedding at all. I still have to tell this to my FI and FMIL and I hope that the big favor on my side is that we have a video and ony my parents will be there for a wedding so the rest of the fam needs to have a great view of the ceremony and not a crying brats during vows, right? I worry too much about everything but I hope FI will be on my side, especially that our niece will be one year old at that time and I hope the parents (BIL) will decide to leave baby at home!!!!!!!
Post # 3
@inspiration86: Whoa that came off as harsh! Your wedding, your rules, but please don’t use that wording when you inform your family. It’s not nice to think of your niece as a “crying brat”.
Post # 5
sorry, that does sound harsh!
I just wish people would have some insight and make this day about us… since that is our day, we nly get this day, and I know many people would have selfish request “to show off the new baby” or “wear the white dress”
Post # 6
We decided no children from the start because firstly we don’t have the space especially now that my FI has his entire squadron coming it won’t be a child friendly environment. Also it is over a 12 hour day so again children get grumpy. We added the videographer later on in the planning and we were glad no children I don’t think we would have booked one if we were having children because it only takes one child to scream the place down. I had a blanket ban including my niece as she will be 1 but didn’t think it was right to have her and tell other guest they couldn’t bring there children. Perhaps that is how you should go about it letting them know you can’t have there child as it isn’t fair to other guests.
People will respect your wishes if they don’t they just won’t come, we have one couple who won’t leave the baby (not little anymore) my reaction was if Kate and Will can do it already then so could they. I always feel when people have children alot of them assume there children are invited to everything (not just weddings) which bugs me but I don’t mind if people don’t come because they can’t have children it’s there choice and they have respected our wishes, meaning they won’t randomly show up with all there children. Try not to stress just word it nicely on your invites and maybe call people you know before and let them know your intentions that is what we did.
Post # 7
I think this is something you and your FI should talk about and decide together. I would never “tell” DH members of his family were not invited.
Post # 8
Also, just saying, churches are public places, you can’t keep people out of them.