Post # 1
This is difficult to talk to the FI about & especially my girlfriends, so I’m turning to the boards! I work with my family, a lot of times it’s awesome…but sometimes, it’s not. Today was one of those days that it wasn’t. I won’t get into detail but basically me & my dad got into it. & I hate when that happens…so we’re sitting basically 2 feet away from each other not even saying a word.
& then there are days where I feel insecure about myself, like I wish I was motivated to work out, and I wish I had more up-to-date clothes, etc. Ugh…sorry bee’s, I’m basically just venting & not feeling good today 🙁
Maybe some of you will give me the inspiration to feel better that I need. Or maybe some of you feel the same way I do..
Thanks guys! I’m probably going to regret posting this after I do, I hate having weaknesses…but I guess it happens to the best of us sometimes!
Post # 3
I’m sorry you aren’t feeling well. Don’t be embarrased about posting this. We all think like that sometimes. Somedays FI and I will be hanging out in pajamas, no makeup, etc. and I will wonder why he is still with me. I feel like a mess sometimes. It’s definitely something you just have to deal with.
Judging by the pictures you’ve posted, you are GORGEOUS 🙂 I doubt anyone cares what you wear anyway!
Hope you feel better soon!
Post # 4
Awww, Lees, I’m sorry you’re having a rough day. If it makes you feel better, I can totally relate. My twin sister works out like four times a day (she’s a college athlete), so I often feel really bad for not being as fit and in-shape as she is. But you know what? I have a wonderful FI who loves me even when I don’t work out. And I have a little puppy that follows me around no matter what I’m wearing.
The point is…even when you’re feeling down, you are loved by many, many people. If you can, go outside and take a five minute walk (fresh air and exercise!) and think about what’s good in your life! I’m sure you’ll find a ton of things to be happy about. Because in the long run…what’s a closet full of fashionable clothes if you have nobody to love you when they all go out of style? 😉
Post # 5
Thanks @Lindsay…you’re so nice! I also get a little jealous of his ex sometimes. & this is so weird of me, she’s not the type that I’d EVER get jealous of. But sometimes I’ll run across a picture of her on the computer. She’s shorter, & she’s a brunnette, NOTHING like me..but I find myself getting jealous sometimes. Ugh..this sucks!
Post # 6
AW 🙁 Feel better!! Number 1-You are GORGEOUS!!! and have no reasons to be insecure! (Although I know how down you can get on yourself b/c I do it too!) Maybe take a few mins, call your FI, not nes. to talk about exactly what’s going on right now, but just to chat, hear his voice and feel the love! xo
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
I totally understand what you mean! I can relate completely about your dad , I’m having my own quandries right now with mine.
I think these down days are what make us human – it feels horrible, but you’re totally entitled. Sometimes, eventhough you’re unmotivated to go the gym, going is just what you might need to feel better! And if all else fails, throw on sweatpants, make popcorn and hot chocolate and camp out with “Love, Actually” or your favorite comfort movie that makes you cry a little! It’s surefire 🙂
I hope you have a better day tomorrow 🙂
Post # 8
Thanks littlebug, you ladies are so helpful when I need yall. I love turning to the boards, I’ve never met a group of ladies so willing to help!
Post # 9
@Lees – I’m glad to help. I can sort of relate – – FI works out of state 3 months a year, and last year he was in Florida the whole time. Talk about feeling insecure. The girls there seem to be gorgeous. He never gave me any indication I should be jealous, but I spent a week down there with him, and felt like a bag lady. LOL.
Post # 10
I’m sorry you’re having a bum day!
This sounds super lame, but paint your nails a super bright color (or toes). That always perks me up for some reason. I suddenly feel chic and trendy versus frumpy. Sometimes we just have those down days where we want to pick ourselves apart. I bet by tomorrow or Thursday you’ll be back to normal though =]
Post # 11
Don’t regret posting this! You should be allowed to say how you feel. And a lot of times we don’t feel comfortable telling the people in our “real world” so the bee is a perfect place.
I’m sorry you’re feeling the way that you are. It seems difficult to have a working relationship with family, there will always be times when you don’t see eye to eye. The good thing is that this is your Father, so you know this will pass and there’s no love lost.
I can totally understand where you’re coming from about working out and clothes! I swear I do!! I live in NYC and I sometimes feel like I need to go shopping all the time to compete, I love the styles but I can’t possible catch up. I tell myself that it doesn’t matter, because truthfully it doesn’t but I love fashion so I’m drawn to the clothes I can’t have right now. It sucks! But like I said, it doesn’t matter, your FI, your family and your friends care about you and love you for you, and not your style of dress. I have no idea how to help motivate you with the gym, I’m the worst! Its like I’m allergic to working out. Eventually though, I just set a goal and there’s no stopping me. I think with the wedding coming up and the stress that creates, maybe it can help you focus on being healthy, since you want to be at your very best.
I have no idea if any of this makes sense. All I know is that I’ve been there!
Post # 12
Aw you guys are the best 🙂 Yall know just how to make someone feel better. I think painting my toes a bright color would help!! That’s a great idea. I need to go & buy some new nail polish 🙂
@Lindsay: I live in PCB, Florida…spring break capital! So I know how you feel about the girls in FL. Although, there aren’t that many pretty girls here. I promise! It’s only spring break time that you really have to worry about, because you can’t really go anywhere without seeing a girl in a bikini or someone flashing somebody for beads! It’s crazy.
@jennifer: Thank you for the sweet comment. You’re right, I should just focus on what’s in front of me & what’s important. i really do need to set a goal to work out more!
Post # 13
Im sorry you are stressed! I worked with my mother for 8 years and it was very very tough and draining. We fought all the time and had lost our mother-daughter relationship. When I started planning my wedding we fought even more so I quit working for her and found a new job. I needed to salvage our relationship and you know what? Its so much better now. Sometimes its very difficult to work with family even friends and your SO. And dont worry, we all go through our insecurities, we’re females!!! The big day is coming and keep reminding yourself that it only happens once, so get motivated, work that body and get toned up girl, you wont regret it on your wedding day when you feel good about yourself and body! THen you can just pig out on your honeymoon, haha, hope you feel better
Post # 14
@Lees – FI was in Daytona over Spring Break, and in Lakeland over the summer. I don’t think he made it to the beach more than 2-3 times, but still. LOL.
Post # 15
Definitely don’t feel embarrassed for posting! Trust me, I have more days like this than I’d like to admit. First, you ARE gorgeous! The photo of you and your FI is beautiful! And, I also know what it’s like to fight with a parent. My mom and I are like oil and water sometimes. She can be very manipulative and make me feel awful for weeks at a time. She is the captain of guilt trips too! Sometimes you just have bad days with your family where you just want to be away from them. And there are also times where you can’t talk to your girlfriends about it b/c they don’t fully understand what it’s like to have parents like yours.
I like the suggestion for painting your nails a bright color! That definitely cheers me up as well! I hope things work out with your dad, and I’m sure they will. But, for now, lots of ((((HUGS))))
Post # 16
Everyone has weak moments, you came to the right place! First of all, never try to keep up with the joneses you will always be left behind. Working out all the time, always updating your wardrobe is nice if you’re a celebrity, us regular folk have other priorities.
Second, my sister works for our Dad’s company so I understand what you’re going through. She had a lot of growing pains and no one could sympathize with her, everyone assumes that since you work for your Dad you’re treated like gold. It was the opposite, he was harder on her than usual and everyone in the office resented her. So I understand. It definitely got better once she was there a while and got into the groove with her tasks and established a rapport with the clients. But she always faces outsiders who assume she’s got it made when she doesn’t.