Having a wedding party after your fiancé dies?

posted 2 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Yes, that comes off a little weird.

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m so sorry to hear that your FI passed away.  How devestating.

It may be interesting having a party to celebrate the legal name change.  Instead, could you have a gathering to celebrate an anniversary (like the day you would have been married?) and maybe make the annoucement then? 

Post # 4
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Helper bee

just change your name on social media and work items, legal documents etc and begin spreading the word.  it would be very weird to throw a party. 

 

also, i’m sorry for your loss.  i’m sure his family loves that you’ve dedicated yourself to him still. 

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’m so sorry.

It may be unimaginable now but you deserve to be happy again, to fall in love again, and have a wedding. I bet your FI would want you to be happy and loved and not spend your life in mourning. 

A party to celebrate would certainly be odd because no one wants to celebrate a tragedy. 

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m sorry for your loss. None of us who haven’t gone through this can ever really understand how you are feeling.

I would encourage you not to throw a party in lieu of a wedding. Some things in life just can’t be made up for and the death of your FI is one of these.

If you are close to his family, perhaps you could take them out to dinner. One of the phenomenons that parents often go through after the death of a child (no matter what age) is that they also lose touch with those close to their child.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

luvingbee:  i would see it as celebrating a life, the life you two shared together before he left this world. im so sorry for you loss. i would just throw a good old party. prob not super crazy like a wedding or as extravagant as a wedding. but i dont see why not to have a regular party. people have divorce parties all the time so why not have a name changing party. 

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I’m so sorry for your loss. This is a situation that I’m sure many of us have never encountered before. 

I understand the desire to celebrate the love you two shared, but a party specifically to announce your new last name may cause a lot of uncomfortable questions. What I would do in your situation is have a memorial celebration for your fiance and circulate the news of your new name then. In my opinion, a grand announcement would be inappropriate.

Again, I am so very sorry for your loss. I hope that you have a lot of friends and family supporting during this time.

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