(Closed) Having an engagement party? Who is throwing it?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Did you have an engagement party?
    Yes : (32 votes)
    65 %
    No : (17 votes)
    35 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    My parents had a party for us after we become engaged.  It was a nice relaxed time for our families to meet.  

    Post # 4
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    My parents through ours. I’ve only been to engagement parties thrown by parents. I guess if you want you could throw one yourself and just ask people to come celebrate with you.

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We had 2 bcause our familes live 2 hours away so we had one for his side and one for our side and both were thrown by our parents. They were such a blast, one at the lake and then one at the baseball game.

    I always thought the parents threw this as a way to celebrate their children’s engagement and get to know the familes but I guess you and your FI could host it. It could be a “We’re engaged, lets celebrate!” party or something and yea, a bbq sounds so fun! That’s what we did! I dont think it would be weird at all if yall threw it!

    Post # 6
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    FI’s parents had a party for us, but partly because we were moving away and partly because they know many of their friends won’t be able to come to the wedding, so it was a chance to celebrate. My parents, on the other hand, although they are generously hosting the wedding, see the “extra” parties as unnecessary.

    Post # 7
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    101 posts
    Blushing bee

    we threw our own! we dont have family in town so it was just friends but it was super fun, low-key, great excuse to get all our friends together to share in our happiness! i’d say – do whatever works for you.

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    my parents threw us an engagement “dinner”. Just a dinner at a restaurant with both our families and our family friends.. it was low key and nice 🙂

    Post # 10
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    It was my MOH’s idea for the engagement party and she threw it along with my bridesmaids at my parents house (her house flooded and was unable to have it there).  My parents and Aunt also helped them out a lot.  I think we had about 40 people at the house and they made all the food.  It was such a nice time.  I think if you throw one it is absolutely fine!!  What a better way to get the two families/friends/wedding party together to celebrate this fun time.

    Post # 11
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We were engaged Dec. 31st, and there happened to be a small family get together already scheduled for the following week (for FI’s) family. We decided to just celebrate then, and have something more ‘formal’ at our beach house in the summertime where people could come and be outside on the water, and we will have a lobster bake. Technically, we are throwing it for ourselves, even though I think that might be bad etiquette, I don’t care! We’re just taking it as another opportunity to celebrate with friends and family prior to the wedding! We also made sure to let people know we aren’t expecting any gifts for the engagement party, just their presence!

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    It would have been nice if we had one, but at the same time, I feel like there are so many parties, showers, dinners, etc. that one gets invited to all for one couple’s wedding and it can kind of go overboard.

    Anyway, no one offered to throw us one so we didn’t have one but no big deal. I generally think that there are enough opportunities to celebrate (see above) that a couple shouldn’t throw their own engagement party too.

    Post # 13
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We just had ours yesterday afternoon. My Mom threw it for us and it was GREAT! It was a pretty intimate event mostly our 2 families and a few very good/close friends. It was fun to celebrate.

    Post # 14
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I didn’t have an engagement party, but wish that I had!  We got engaged a few days after my 30th birthday party (which was attended by all my family and a lot of friends), and had wanted to even throw a dinner party for ourselves, but we just got caught up and it never happened!  

    Post # 15
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    We threw an “engagement party/welcome home from Iraq/housewarming” party for ourselves, haha. Tacky, I’m sure. But, really, we showed off the ring, I talked weddings with my girls, all our parents were there, we BBQ’d cheeseburgers and hot dogs. DH’s mom gifted us some really nice toasting flutes and gave a “welcome to the family” speech.

    It was casual but fun. Some of my friends gave us congrats on your engagement cards or a bottle of wine, but nothing crazy.

    Also–it was the first time my parents had met his mom, sister, and grandparents. And we thought it’d be less awkward if it was a party, with a bunch of other people around, some beer, some food, and some music.

    Post # 16
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    sapphirebride (message)    December 31, 2010   Seattle, WA

    It would have been nice if we had one, but at the same time, I feel like there are so many parties, showers, dinners, etc. that one gets invited to all for one couple’s wedding and it can kind of go overboard.

    Anyway, no one offered to throw us one so we didn’t have one but no big deal. I generally think that there are enough opportunities to celebrate (see above) that a couple shouldn’t throw their own engagement party too.

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    I like your attitude sapphirebride.

    So the awkward moment has arrived after my engagement announcement 1 month ago.

    Do we need or want one?

    Who is going to throw our engagement party?

    Should we throw one ourselves?

    With every1 lives so busy & hectic, it would be presumptuous to think any family or friends will throw us one no?

     

    …help?

     

     

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