Post # 1
I’m admitting it, I’m a bit of a control freak. I am a firm believer in the saying, “If you want something done right, do it yourself”.
So I know not everything is going to be perfect but I see a lot of posts about things went wrong but you could feel the love and such. But, what if people don’t feel the love? After all FH and I have been together for over 6 years, have a son, and own a home together. We love eachother so much but not in the new relationship, sparks flying sort of way. Plus I will be feeling so nervous, not about marriage but about 100 people staring at me, I’m sure the feeling will be anxiety, not love.
I can’t believe I’m worrying about worrying! any bees have relaxation tips? Or should I just take a xanax (j/k the one time I took one I immediately passed out).
Post # 3
I’m a big fan of deep breathing. Its nice can you can do it anywhere, anytime. Gives you something to focus on other than the worry itself.
Post # 4
Thanks. That’s what I’ve been trying this whole process. With the wedding so close and still so much to do I began having hour long panic attacks and all my usual calming tricks were not working. So I quit caffine and got a script for the lowest dose of xanax. It’s helping a lot. I’m not taking it all the time just when I really feel I need it and I’m trying to get lots of exercise too. Hopefully, the day of I can concentrate on FH w/o meds!
Post # 5
As someone who’s on anxiety meds, I strongly suggest you take them the morning of your wedding!
I didn’t, and I totally regret it. I was so nervous, I made myself sick (literally). I didn’t actually throw up, but I felt like I was going to all morning. I’m so sad that I allowed myself to get like that, and I wish I could redo the whole morning with my family and friends. It was one of the parts I was most looking forward to.
Thankfully, after the ceremony, I felt normal again.
Post # 6
@Miss Chapstick: I will keep that in mind. If I feel like I need them I will take them. I haven’t taken xanax in 10 years so I thought I’d be out of it and drowsy but I wasn’t at all. I just felt normal again. I guess that means I needed it.
I’m sorry to hear about your yucky wedding day morning! Sounds like me yesterday. Thank god it went away after the ceremony.
Thanks ladies! I felt like I was going crazy.