(Closed) Having babies young?

posted 5 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
2023 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

According to http://www.teenhelp.com/teen-pregnancy/teen-pregnancy-statistics.html

  • Despite declines in rates of teen pregnancy in the U.S., about 820,000 teens become pregnant each year. That means that 34 percent of teenagers have at least one pregnancy before they turn 20. 


  • 79 percent of teenagers who become pregnant are unmarried. 


  • Utah’s teen pregnancy rate is high, as well as Southern teen pregnancy but these are areas where women still get married prior to the age of 20 with some regularity (although this is changing). 


  • 80 percent of teenage pregnancies are unintended. 


  • Nearly four in ten teenage girls whose first intercourse experience happened at 13 or 14 report that the sex was unwanted or involuntary. 


  • The main rise in the teen pregnancy rate is among girls younger than 15* 


  • Close to 25 percent of teen mothers have a second child within two years of the first birth.*

EDIT – Just wanted to throw these stats out there.  Its pretty scary to think that 34% of teens will become pregnant in the US. 

Post # 5
335 posts
Helper bee

I have mixed feelings on this.  On the one hand, I think that the babies have the best situational chances for being physically healthy, I also think that the parents won’t be “old” by the time the children are ready to leave, so they can enjoy middle age without children.  I also think that at that age, they may be more likely to remember their own childhoods.   On the other hand, they’re not often financially ready, and they have the highest chances to be struggling.

Not as many teens are getting pregnant as they used to, and I don’t really consider 18 (an adult, technically and, in many ways, legally) to be a “teen” pregnancy, even though they are a teenager.  There are pros and cons on both sides.

Post # 6
2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am a “teen mom.” I got pregnant at 18. We struggled but I am the best mom I can be. My daughter is healthy and happy.


@Chaoslight:  I also don’t consider 18 to be a “teen” pregnancy.


@buggaboo6:  If they are careful she won’t get pregnant right after. My daughter will be 2 and I still haven’t gotten pregnant again.


I am 20, married, living in my own house, paying my own bills, and supporting our family. We are trying for our 2nd child. I beat the statistics.

Post # 9
3340 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

I want to have children young because the chance of birth defects and such increase significantly after age 30.  But I’m 25 and planning on starting to TTC around 27.  So, that’s not that young.

My best friend got pregnant at 18 and delivered twins at 19.  The father bailed (ran all the way to Denmark actually).  It’s a hard life for her trying to raise twin boys all by herself.

So, I’m pro having kids while young but also con having kids out of wedlock.  You have to be emotionally, physically, and financially ready for children.

Post # 10
1659 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I feel like people are older! Granted, Dirty Delete was not planned (I was 24, Darling Husband was 32) but we’re TTC right now and I’m still the only one in my group of girlfriends who has a kid. We’re all 27/28 now and only one other couple is TTC. The rest of the marrieds or engageds won’t be having kids for another five years.

Post # 11
732 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I know alot of people are against this because it isnt good for the mother or the child (  a TON of people have said to my face) But I want people to hear from a young mom, heres my story

Im 20, 21 in a month and have two babies. My first little girl is a year and a half and my little boy is 6 months old. I got pregnant at 18, which was a shock because my Fiance was told when he was a teenager that he wouldnt be able to have kids, that we’d have to adopt. When he told me that I was devestated. I cried for weeks. I’ve wanted babies since I was little. And to have the love of my life not be able to have babies..It was devistating. When I found out I was pregnant, I was over joyed! Granted, It wasnt oppertune timing since i had just got accepted into university but luckily i had not paid the tuition yet. So yes I did have to put schooling on hold. But i dont think that will ruin my or my childrens life if i dont get post secondary education RIGHT now. My children have savings for their education(which is more than my parents ever game me), a healthy life style(clean living conditions, lots of healthy food, learning toys), lots of love and cuddles. Sure I dont have a high paying job and im young that doesnt mean im a bad parent or will never go to school or get a better job. I have my whole life ahead of me.. so much can happen!


Im also friends with 2 other girls even younger than myself, onews in school to be a midwife and works to support her little girl and the other works and is applying to university this year.. young moms dont loose opportunities, they just get to spend more time with their babies <3

Post # 12
733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think it’s regional. Where I grew up, it’s most common to have your first child at age 18-20. 

Where I live on the West Coast now, people tend to wait until they’re married or very long term and then have one about age 30. People are more educated here too. Back home many are on welfare and by 25 have 3-4 kids, usually different dads.

Post # 14
1519 posts
Bumble bee

I’m a little offended that you referred to 18 to 20 year olds as “kids”. Many are not mature and are still teenagers, but one of my friends has had 3 planned children, one at 19, one at 22, and one at 26. I’m 21 and my husband and I are trying to get pregnant. Now, there’s a huge difference between me and a lot of 21 year olds and a lot of people under the age of 21. I have a college degree and I’ve had the same decent paying job for over 6 years. 

It is sad when there are unplanned pregnancies at any age. I think there are just as many unplanned pregnancies in other age groups (my parents were 24 and 26 and I was not planned) but they aren’t in high school and are generally more financially stable, so it’s not really talked about. They certainly were not the best parents until they grew up (within the past 5-7 years). People mature at different ages. When faced with an unplanned pregnancy, regardless of age, some parents step up and do their best and are amazing parents and some dip and aren’t involved and still put themselves first and there are tons of people in between the two. My stepdaugther’s mom hasn’t seen or talked to her in 2 years and she was 25 when she left. My husband is now 30 and he stepped up and became the most amazing father I’ve ever met. 

Sixteen and pregnant and teen mom are not glamorous in the least. Many of the kids are addicted to substances and the ones with fathers involved are in the minority. Many of the girls on there go to schools and talk about how hard it is to discourage teen pregnancy and to teach about resources that are available to avoid teen pregnancy. I’m sure some girls are like “Oh awesome I want to be on TV!” but some people just want attention. Some people want the unconditional love that a child will give them, and don’t realize how much work is involved. Some just don’t use protection because they don’t think it will happen to them, and that is not because it’s glamorized to not use birth control…it’s because they’re scared to go out and get it and they’re pressured to not use it in some cases. 

Education is key in preventing unplanned pregnancies, and sometimes it’s not enough. Only a very small percent of teen pregnancies are planned, so shows like 16&pregnant and teen mom aren’t the main problem. If anything, they show that it can happen (almost all of the girls said they didn’t think they would get pregnant while not on birth control, but did and encourage the use of protection). I am going to be very open with my daughter about using protection and be open with my own experiences because it’s important that she knows she can ask me questions and that I will help her to get on birth control if she decides to be sexually active (while encouraging waiting until she is in a stable, long-term relationship and is older), and I know that may not be enough and that accidents happen. 

I know many of my family members will be upset for a little bit when/if I get pregnant soon, and I fully understand where they are coming from. My reasons for starting a family early is that my stepdaughter is turning 5 and I want them to be close in age and I would rather be a stay at home mom now since I already am one and go back to school and start my career when the second child is in school as opposed to waiting a couple years and waiting longer to start my career. 

So, in conclusion, unplanned pregnancies happen to all sorts of people at all sorts of points in their lives. The parents can step up or not, and when unplanned pregnancies happen at younger ages to teenagers it becomes less likely that the child will be raised in a stable environment, which is very sad. Education about protection and easy access to protection is important because many people who get pregnant on accident aren’t using protection/aren’t using protection correctly. Of course, this isn’t true for everyone and I think that best case scenario, people wouldn’t have sex unless they’re ready to have a baby, but many, many people, myself included, don’t and sometimes things don’t go as planned. (Of course we’re on cycle 3 of trying, so there you go).

Post # 16
1556 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I want to be finished having kids by the time I’m 30, which some people consider young. I know quite a few people that waited until they were 30+ before they had their first. For me, I’m ready anytime because I know the risk of birth defects increases with age. & I know that as I get older, my body won’t recover as quickly. I also wouldn’t have as much energy to devote to being with my kids if I waited until I got older. I’m 24 now, though. But I know of teen moms that specifically wanted kids earlier for the same reasons I listed.

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