Post # 1
If I make it optional for the ladies involved in the wedding to get their hair/make-up done, is it too tacky to have them pay? Honestly, I don’t care if they have it done or not, but If I pay for all 6 people it will be around $1,000 that I don’t have. What are you ladies doing?
Post # 3
I only have one bridesmaid–my MOH–and I am paying for her hair and makeup. But I contacted a salon for other family members. They gave me a package for hair and makeup for my mom, FMIL, and aunts. I offered to make the appointments and they pay. I feel that what you are asking is fair. You have the resources available and if they choose to use them, I see no issue in having them pay……especially since it is optional.
Post # 4
No I think you are fine. I think it’s only rude if you are forcing them to have it done.
Post # 5
Where are you going that it is that expensive? That’s crazy.
I think it’s wonderful when the bride gives everyone this option. IMO, it wasn’t an "option" for me to include hair for my ladies. Makeup IS optional but it’s at the Clinique counter at Nordstrom and it’s FREEEEEEE. I encouraged them to buy something or if they want only their eyes done, that’d be best. But I found places that do updos for $30 and a hair school that does updos for $25. The Clinique lady does makeup on the side for weddings for $25 a face and she’ll come to you.
I think the place you picked (and i don’t know where you are going thats a big deal) is average priced for a bride ($150 or so for hair/makeup for the bride) but I think that’s insanely overpriced for bridesmaids.
Your ladies will appreciate the effort. I have to do my own hair for a wedding i’m in (or pony up $80 for an updo) and it sort of sucks.
I really….really….really think you should find a more affordable option for your ladies. I know this is common to be like "if you WANT to get your hair done, great! pay for it yourself" and most people don’t think it’s a big deal….but it’s on my poop list. Why don’t you just make that their gift? I’m sure you picked out expensive dresses for them, right? Take that into consideration. I have 6 bridesmaids too and I managed for it not to break my bank.
Post # 6
I think its really nice if you can pay for the BM, MOB & MOG to get their hair done, but not necessary.
Its also nice to offer to set up there hair appointment for them… maybe give them a call and ask if they would like to get their hair done at your salon for $XX amount of money. If they don’t like that salon or don’t want to pay to get their hair done then its up to them to do their own hair or make an appointment.
I am paying for my BM’s and MOB/MOG to get their hair done. However that is a big part of the "thank you" gift i am giving them for being a part my wedding.
Post # 7
I agree with ejsry8, that is crazy expensive!
I have 3 bridesmaids and I asked them beforehand what they wanted to do, and they said they wanted to get their hair and makeup done. I found a woman who is coming to us and she’ll do full hair and makeup for $75 a girl. She’ll also do both moms for $45 each, but lighter makeup and hairdo.
I think you need to shop around. You can’t expect your girls to shell out so much money for everything. Dress, shoes, hair, makeup, gifts & showers… it all adds up.
Post # 8
It is definitely not tacky for the attendants to pay for their own hair and makeup. That is usually how I have seen it.
For us, I have made appointments for them at the same place I am going but they are not required to go there since it can be a little pricey. I want my ladies to go with whomever they are comfortable with. As long as they feel beautiful, that is all that matters to me.
Post # 9
It is only rude to ask them to pay if you are requiring or strongly suggesting that they get their hair and makeup done. It isn’t rude to offer to make appointments for them, if the hair/makeup is optional. However, be sure to let them know the costs up front.
Post # 10
I think it probably varies a lot by region as to what’s common, but I’m not paying for my BM’s hair/make-up. Actually, I’ve never been to a wedding where anyone but the bride got her make up done professionally.
For hair, I think if you are specifying anything (e.g. hair up), it’s nice to pay or at least find a cheaper option. But if not, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with leaving it up to them.
Post # 11
I say hair and make up is optional and therefore they pay themselves. I’ve paid for my make up andhair for every wedding that I’ve been in and never had a problem. My salon charges up to $100 for updo’s and I could never afford to pay for 7 people (plus their makeup).
Post # 12
Thanks! I sent out an e-mail to get a feel. Of my three I got 1 yes, 1 no and 1 if it was under $100. So we’ll see what I can find. I have beauticians I am looking at now that charge $85 and $100 for the BMs.
Post # 13
I am paying (well my parents are) for each of the girls to get their makeup done and they are paying to get their hair done. It wasnt optional but it is only $50 per girl to get their hair done in whatever updo they want.
Post # 14
I’m not paying for theirs, but I’m also not paying for my own. My hair styling & makeup are being provided as gifts in one way or another. I am giving my girls gifts, but I want their gifts to be a little more personal than, "Hey, I want you all to look uniform, so my gift is to pay someone to style your hair and makeup how I want it to look on my wedding day."
I’m a pretty easy-going bride. I’m letting my 2 female attendants get a tea-length chocolate brown dress of their own choosing, and I occasionally send them links to dresses under those criteria that are on clearance, usually around $40 or so, but it’s totally at their discretion as to what they buy.
They definitely don’t have to have their hair & makeup professionally styled, though if they want to, that’s fine. I wouldn’t be having mine professionally done if not for the fact that a) I reeeeally want finger waves which I can’t pull off myself, and b) I happen to have friends/family in these industries.
Post # 15
wow, $150 per BM that’s NYC prices, whoa!
I haggled; my neighborhood salon gave a me a discount $30 makeup $60 for make-up and blowdry and $80 for an updo
I am paying for it;
MOH updo and makeup $120
mom make up $ 30
BM updo $80
my makeup $30
my hair FREE a friend who works in a fancy salon on fifth avenue offered (normal price is $250)
total $260 for my bridal party myself and mom; I don’t mind because my MOH is my sis, my BM is my niece
Post # 16
I think 1 yes, 1 maybe, and 1 no means that it’s probably still iffy for them. i bet if you shop around you’ll find a good deal.
I’m all about splurging on the bride for a good hairstlyist (because she usually has the most makeup on and the most intricate updo!) but your average joe hairstlyist isn’t going to mess up a basic updo. Even in SoCal updos were like $45 for the easier stuff. I think it’s great you checked with them, though! I’ve already had my girls prodding on cost (half are in college, the other half aren’t)
Some location should give you a discount or something if you are willing to pay cash (sometimes up to 10%….jewelers do this, too, wink wink) especially for a large party. You may feel like a pimp with $500 in your pocket, though =]