- 3 years ago
Ok, I know it really depends on a lot of factors, but I think this is something that a lot of women think about and consider when contemplating TTC. Yes, there is never a “perfect” time to have a child and family is important. But let’s face it, for career-minded individuals, this is something that could very well factor into TTC timing.
Please feel free to be honest about your concerns, fears, apprehensions and please, NO JUDGMENT of those who have a different perspective.
So, for bees who have or are planning on having children:
- How old were you/will you be when you have children?
- How did/will having a child impact your career goals?
- Did/are you planing children around your career goals?
- Do you wish you had children at a different point in your career? (i.e., wish you were younger/older)
Personally, I am 26 years old and I am 4 years into my post-college career field. I have been at my current organization for about 2.5 years and I am now in a leadership position/manage a department of 8 staffers. I love what I do and while it can be incredibly stressful, I wouldn’t change it. My concern though is that having children might negatively impact my career trajectory. While I work in a fairly family-friendly environment now (I do marketing/administration for a public charter school), I will not stay at this organization forever and my current job does not have maternity leave.
To answer my own questions:
- How old were you/will you be when you have children? I am planning on TTCing when I turn 30 (in about 4 years).
- How did/will having a child impact your career goals? At this point, no idea! If I am at my current organization, I think they will be flexible, though there is no maternity leave. But if I leave for another position, then it’s a complete unknown.
- Did/are you planing children around your career goals? Yes, I am waiting to have children because I want to be more established in my career and have 8-10 years experience.
- Do you wish you had children at a different point in your career? (i.e., wish you were younger/older) At this point, no. I did not want to be a young mother. My mother had my 3 children by the time she was 26. While she loved and raised us well, it was really hard for her to establish a career since she didn’t go to college and finances were tight in general. I think 30 is an ideal age for me and we will see.