(Closed) Having children over 35

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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944 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m not in my 30’s or TTC to conceive right now, but I am 28 and getting married this fall.  I just was at the gyno the other day and she said we need to consider trying as soon as we can because after the age of 30 the chances of being able to conceive drop significantly!!  This freaks me out because we had initially wanted to wait two years before we even TTC. 🙁  Apparently as a woman in my late 20’s I’m already past the ideal window to be able to conceive anyways.  🙁  Just my two cents that I learned recently.

Post # 4
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7083 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Don’t let people  scare you too much.  I’m 38 and the OB, my other doc and friends spent the better part of 2 years trying to freak me out about my chances.  As you saw from the other thread, we conceived on the first try.  Each person is different, but I did have some medical problems that could potentially make things hard for me… It appears that this little girl was meant to be!

Post # 5
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445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

The stats you hear can be soooooo discouraging. Although I actually know a lot of women who conceived naturally and had babies well into their 40s, I honestly thought that at 41, I might not conceive at all. However, I conceived within a month of TTC (and we were not charting or anything). Although I sadly miscarried that pregnancy, I conceived again within 3 months and am now halfway thru the pregnancy with no apparent problems. I will be 42 when I deliver.

I’m not an expert, obviously, that’s just my experience. If you don’t have any underlying health or fertility issues, there should be no problem conceiving after 35. It might take longer than when you’re younger, and you do have a slightly higher risk of miscarriage and other problems, but it is not quite as bleak as some doctors might lead you to believe. I think it is worthwhile to learn to chart your cycle, because as well as helping when you are trying to conceive, it can also help to determine if you have any fertility issues.

Post # 6
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1508 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’ll be older than 35 when we try. I try to not let the doom and gloom stuff get to me.  I didn’t get married until I was 36.

Post # 7
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1154 posts
Bumble bee

Also take a look at family history, your mom grandma aunt – did they try for years for for less than a month?  “The numbers” can be really misleading – all you want is a baby not to get instantly pregnant five times in a row so the “ideal window” is irrelevant. 

Post # 8
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1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I’m getting married at 32 & I’ll prob be 34 when we start to try. I’m with the PP’s who say – don’t let people freak you out. My mother had me at 42 but my cousin had trouble at 24. Everyone is different.

Post # 9
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1051 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’ll be 3 months shy of 30 when we get married and won’t TTC for at least a year (FI would love to wait even longer!).  I asked my ob/gyn about everything at my last appt, and he told me not to worry about it, that even in their 30s, 80% of women conceive within 2 yrs and of those, 75% within 9 months.  My mom had my younger bro at 35 and my little sister at 41, and my parents had major problems to begin with.  It took them 8 YEARS of activvely trying in their “prime” 20s and eventually taking whatever fertility drugs were available in the 70s to have my older brother.  On top of that, with the incredible breadth of medical assistance options we have now I don’t think any of us should start freaking out too much.  My mom still insists the massive stress was the main cause of their 8 yr dry spell because as soon as they gave up and decided to look into adoption, my mom got preggers=)

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’ll be 33 this August and we will start ttc around that time. I’m not overly concerned about my age. I am, however, concerned about having a second child (being even older) even though I know many women who have successfully had babies in their later 30’s.

Like somebody above said, everyone is different. Some women have babies in their late 30’s and early 40’s just fine, while some women in their 20’s can’t have children. I think it’s important to look at those things that help your fertility. I need to start doing that now in order to prepare for ttc.  (Eating healthier, healthy weight, etc.)  Men shouldn’t carry cell phones in pockets (can cause lower sperm count-article is on ABC News today LOL), no drinking, smoking, etc. All of these things are supposed to help chances of conceiving as well.  Both of my aunt’s had children in their late 30’s -one child each and had very normal pregnancies and deliveries.

 

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