(Closed) Having extra rooms but kids share a bedroom?

posted 5 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: Is it wrong to have kids sharing a room when there are extra rooms available (& they want to share)?
    Yes, they need their own space : (33 votes)
    28 %
    No, sharing a room develops character : (54 votes)
    47 %
    No, the room would be better used if it were repurposed : (29 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would keep them in different rooms. It’s only been a few months and depeneding on their age, this is likely a phase and they’ll wan their own space again. I would leave it as is if it was me. But I do understand your thinking on it and don’t find it weird. I just think you’ll find it as an issue to change back later.

    Post # 4
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    My sister and I shared a room until puberty, then I moved into my own room.

    I thought it was really important for several reasons.  We figured out conflict resolution and not to involve our parents in every spat.  We learned how to share space.  We learned how to live and respect another person in our same living space. 

    These were invaluable skills when I moved off to college!

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I say let ’em share a room until they ask for their own rooms again 🙂 It may happen again at a later age. No harm in sharing a room if they want to!

    Post # 7
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    They will grow out of the room sharing between ages 9 and 13. 

    Post # 8
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    4355 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    My cousins (2 girls) shared a room for the same reason you state, they always wanted to be together. So they too shared until just before puberty and then split up. They rarely fought through the horomonal teenage years and are now best friends in young adulthood. I think if they want to share, it could be great for them but keep it in your mind that you might need to switch your homeschool room back to a bedroom on short notice if it doesn’t work out. 

    Post # 9
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    440 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    My husband and his brother used to live in huge big house with a play room, a room each and more and they shared a room their entire childhood. It wasn’t for any other reason other than that they were close and I find it adorable.

    Unless they express the desire for their own room I don’t think there is anything to worry about here (Don’t fix what’s not broken) Unless you NEED the other room for something else, just leave it be I say

    Post # 10
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I shared a room with my sister my entire childhood, and we always had extra rooms — a guest room, a library, etc. that could have been made into an extra bedroom. I don’t think children need their own rooms at all. Use the space for what you need it for — and the kids are sleeping together anyway!

    Post # 11
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @MrsFuzzyFace:  I would keep them in separate rooms or at the very least, make sure that it’s easy for them to be put back into separate rooms if need be (like don’t get rid of anything). Kids change their minds all the time, and depending on their ages, this arrangement won’t last forever.

    Post # 13
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    980 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    My younger sister (4 year difference) and I shared a room until I was 15 I think. We probably would have opted to have our own rooms a little earlier if we had the space but sharing a room was a ton of fun and made us super close. If your girls want to room together, I’d let them. When they get older, they’ll probably ask for their own rooms but for now, it’s a great time for them to bond and do everything together.

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    My sister and I are less than 11 months apart. We shared a room until I started middle school (so, about 11). It was all fun and I loved it, but once I had my own room, I really loved the idea of my own space. 

    Your girls will fight and be cruel to each other as they grow older. It will be nice to have a space where they can cool off without having to be forced to spend time. Even if it isn’t used now, the room will be used later down the road. And your daughters will thank you for it. 

    Post # 15
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    Bee Keeper

    Mine shared a room from when they were very little until the older one was about 12. Even when they had their own rooms, one or the other ended up in the other room anyway. I think they enjoyed the late night takling and giggling together, and monsters in the night didn’t seem so terrifying. (Mine are 5 years apart.)

    When houses were smaller, most siblings shared a room. Nobody NEEDS to have their own space/room in a family while they’re children, but it seems many people want it that way. I didn’t get my own until I was 16.

    Why not ask them if they’d like to share?

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