(Closed) Having Guests Stand durring ceremony

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

The only problem I see with it is that you aren’t counting the time from when the guests arrive to when the ceremony starts. First, ceremonies never start on time and does your 15 minutes include bridal party walking in? I think you should have seating for the older guests at least and your parents, etc. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

My friends rented chairs for their wedding ceremony on the beach. My fiance officiated the wedding. And he forgot to tell the guests to sit down after the bride walked in – WHOOPS! It was about as long as yours and was no big deal. We all love to laugh about it now. As far as it looking funny – could you put maybe seat cushions on the ground or something?

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

The only concerns I’d have about having people stand for the duration of the ceremony would be the weather and whether or not you have older guests.

Regarding the weather: if it’s warmer on the day of your wedding, it might make people more uncomfortable to stand for the duration, even if it’s only for ten or fifteen minutes. That shouldn’t be a problem in late September, but it’s something to keep in mind in case things are unseasonably warm (when my parents married on September 25, 1982, it was 90 degrees out. Yikes!).

And regarding guests: older guests or guests with physical problems might have trouble standing for even as short a time as ten or fifteen minutes. I have tendonitis in my ankles, and even standing for fifteen minutes at the time can leave me in pain for the entire rest of the day, believe it or not, especially when I’m doing so in dress shoes.

My advice would be to see how much it would cost to only rent a few chairs and maybe rope them off as seating for the elderly or those with physical disabilities. If the reception is seated at all, it probably wouldn’t hurt to just use the same chairs from there (which it’s possible guests will do anyway). To make it obvious what guests are supposed to do, you could print on your wedding programs something like “Those who are able, please stand with us as we recite our vows,” and tell the ushers/groomsmen something along those lines to pass onto guests. I’d also be sure to make your aisle clearly marked, if you’re walking down the aisle at all, maybe by creating one out of flower petals (or autumn leaves!) or by having an aisle runner, just so you won’t have to push through the crowd on your way to the arch.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I don’t see a problem with people standing except for elderly people who may get sore legs. We are having our guests stand also.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

ive been to weddings and half of us was standing while the other half (mostly family) was sitting – didnt think anything of it at the time.

i suggest chairs for any elderly people, maybe have them guarded by someone and an elderly aunt ect shown to their seat as even 15mins can be a long time for someone a bit unsteady on their feet. this is what my nephew did for his outdoor wedding, just made it easier for some

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I went to a wedding where we had seats before the ceremony started, but once it did, we didn’t get to sit down for like 20 mins. It was very uncomfortable standing so close to some people I didn’t know, and I was scared I was going to pass out if I kept the position for too long. Everyone was squirming around, I don’t think any one was too comfortable. Especially with an older crowd with grandparents and stuff… it could be tough on them.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Our guests will be standing for our wedding ceremony. Like you, I can’t see renting chairs for a 10 minute ceremony! However, the garden where we are getting married is next to a fountain plaza where there are benbches and the fountain wall where guests can sit until the ceremony begins.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would offer seating.  Some of the bees brought up a good point about older guests.  I recently went to a wedding where I had to stand for about 15-20 minutes and I hated it.  I couldn’t really concentrate on the wedding because I was trying to peer around people to see and my feet were killing me from standing up.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

Something to think about, is that not only elderly guests are unsteady on their feet. My mother has MS and she probably couldn’t stand in once place for 15-20 minutes. Especially if it was hot.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I had my guests standing during the ceremony but it was a fairly short ceremony and it was not very warm weather that day.

I did however provide chairs for elderly guests and pregnant ones. Also we served drinks (water, juice & champagne – well yes it was a wedding) to the guests when they arrived.

It was a small and intimate wedding with a very personal ceremony so our guests stood in a circle around us  – I haven’t heard any complaints on the standing up part, on the contrary several of the guests expressed how much they had liked the ceremony afterwards.

I guess my conclusion is that letting your guests stand is fine as long as you make sure they’re comfortable – depending on their abilities but also the weather and the place for your ceremony (you don’t want to have anyone stand up for 15 minutes in the sun with no shadow and nothing to drink b/c that guarantees v. cranky guests.

 

 

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I attended a wedding where most guests had to stand (family was seated).  It was uncomfortable in many ways.  First, it had rained that morning and so all the women had trouble standing in the wet dirt.  Secondly, we were directed to stand behind some taller individuals, so we couldn’t see.  It was a muggy day, and I’m surprised no one did pass out. 

Even though your ceremony is short, there’s no reason why your guests should be uncomfortable while they are there to witness it. 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I have been to an outdoor wedding where the was only enough seating for the older crowd! And it was very nice and intimate – it was really hot but that would have been the same if we were seated or standing!

No one complained and I thought it was wonderful! Do it up if you don’t have any guests that can’t stand for 30 min and if you do just provide seating for them to keep costs down!

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

We provided chairs for 20 guests at our 170 person wedding in May.  I didn’t hear one complaint from anyone about having to stand through the ceremony.

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