Having much less guests than expected, feeling panicked and sad!

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
3637 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

When is your wedding? Can you invite people that you originally had to cut? OR can you use the extra money you would have spent on their food on a photo booth, midnight snack, better drinks, a mash potato bar or the like? Those features will make it more fun and make the room feel full.

Post # 3
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I agree with PP.. you can take some of the money you’ll no longer need for the guests who cant make it, and do some “upgrades”, a dessert bar or candy buffet, maybe some type of entertainment, a late night snack or some type of group activity.

All of these would help fill up the room and add to the excitement.

Post # 4
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Now might be a good time to bust out that B list. Also, check with your venue – maybe there’s an option to move it to a smaller section or make the space feel more intimate? I’m sure they will have some ideas for you. Also, I agree with PP about upgrading some things or adding things! Why not?! 

And just remember, people who will be there love you and are happy to be there to support your marriage. Don’t focus on those who can’t make it, focus on your husband and those who are there to share your special day!

Post # 5
588 posts
Busy bee

I really dislike attending overly crowded weddings. Having space to dance and not bump my chair into another chair when getting up at dinner is sooo nice. Being able to save money – or upgrade things at the wedding – is also a huge plus.

The only thing I’d worry about is if the room has a 150 person minimum requirement? Do you have to pay a fee then? If so, I’d send out another round of invitations to people who didn’t make the first list.

I’m a small wedding fan myself though, so 120 already seems like a lot to me.

Post # 6
1864 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Our wedding venue holds 400 and we had 150. Didn’t feel empty at all. If anything, it was so nice that there was ample room around the tables and every sat comfortably. 

Post # 7
9525 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think your guests will apprecaite that it isn’t crowded! We invited 230 and only had 160 RSVP yes and 150 actually attend. And it was awesome! It made setting things up so much easier. We had room around the bar and buffet tables so they weren’t crowded. Which created more space where people could stand around and socialize. You can also give the dance floor plenty of space in case it’s packed and it spills over. 120 is plenty big enough for a great party!

Post # 8
1590 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I agree that they will love the space! 

Post # 10
1116 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Our venue had a 180 minimum, We invited 250 and had 140 show up. The room didn’t feel empty at all. We made smaller tables (6-8 people at tables that could hold 10) and they were a little more spread out. We had a lot of people say how nice it was to not feel like they were squished in. And I know the feeling. I hate going to events where you can’t even cut you food because you’re so close to the person next to you, then having to go to the bathroom or whatever and looking around and not seeing a way to get out of the room.

Post # 11
397 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

MrsCreeToBe:  our venue had a max of 170. We had 130 total on the guest list and 94 ended up coming to the wedding. It was totally fine! I honestly don’t know how they would fit 170 people in that room…it felt full with 94! 120 is plenty! Remember you’ll have to talk to everyone at some point, lol.

Post # 12
579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

MrsCreeToBe:  We had around 80 people and loved it. I hate going a wedding and feeling squashed and not actually getting a chance to congratulate the bride and groom because of the number of people. Trust me, it will be perfect!

Post # 13
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Norton Country Club

I think 120 people will be a great party! I understand being upset that some of the folks you hoped to see won’t be there, but you have 120 people who really want to celebrate with you! If you’re worries about them being bored, maybe you can find an icebreaker? I remember reasing about games that encourage mingling somewhere on here. Otherwise, just remember that this could give you real facetime with every guest- you’ll get to heat how much fun they’re each having. 

Post # 14
6785 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

I don’t see how your wedding wouldn’t be awesome with 120 of your friends and family there!! That is a LOT of people! I only had 20 people at my wedding and I can assure you, I could feel the love! I’m sure your guests will be happy because there won’t be lines at the bar, they might get some seconds on food, and they’ll have more chances to get to talk to the new happy couple. Don’t worry, I’m sure everything will still be great!

Post # 15
3833 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We had 116 and it was an AWESOME party, so 120 is plenty! 

To take up more room, you can always put less people at a table (6 instead of 8 or 8 instead of 10) – nobody likes sitting at a crowded table! Also, after dinner, people mingle and hang out – you’ll never notice the size of the room with people moving around.

Leave a comment

Sent weekly. You may unsubscribe at any time.

Find Amazing Vendors