- 6 years ago
Ok, I will try not to, but I am most likely about to ramble. A lot. I apologize for that now. First off, we have been together for 5 years, and now live together. We have seriously talked about almost everything possible when it comes to marriage, mutiple times. We are just very open about it and for the most part never hinted around, we just always kind of put it out there. We have brainstormed where, when, how many guest, colors ect. We have discussed plans for our future such as careers, finances, children, where we want to live. All of this mutiple times! We even have a timeline in place that we both agree is subject to change (but no later then this fall will we be engaged!) Our wedding is tenativly planned for April or May 2013. This is about the only time we both will be available in the next 5 years (haha) between college, internships, and work. Things changed a little when he learned he had recieved a stipend fellowship to Europe this Summer (yay!) I think he would like to wait to get engaged until after he returns which was originally was fine with me. Then I started thinking about it (bad idea!) and realized if we sent out STD in Oct that only gives our guest 6 or 7 months to plan, when they all will be traveling 500-1,000 miles for our wedding! (We no longer live in our hometown.) Also, much of my family is planning on coming to my nursing school graduation in November of this year, which could possibly make it so they can’t attend our wedding. We both really don’t feel comfortable announcing a wedding until we are engaged, and personally it’s much more important to me that my family attends my wedding over graduation! So tomorrow at dinner (Tuesday seem to be our only free night together) I’m going to bring up the topic of getting engaged before he leaves. I know his biggest stressor is money, but he only needs about $500 for the whole 3 months he will be in Europe. Between our savings accounts we have enough for that, our TOTAL living expenses for 3 months PLUS an emergency fund! I also work enough to pay the utilities, my gas and food expenses each month. So the plan is to present all this information to him at dinner (I’m starting to feel like I’m preparing for a research project presentation!) I’m hoping he will understand my concern for our guests and how important it is to me that they are there, and not to be selfish but I would love to take my Fiance to the airport to leave for 3 months then my BF! Haha. After this though, I am taking a break from the marriage talk. Hopefully to give him some time to plan an engagement. If that’s not the case, because I will be slightly and selfishly disappointed.
Wow. Sorry for the obnoxiously long post. But trust me, I don’t think any of my friends of family care to hear about this! haha. Also, I’m not sure why but after writing this notice I’m feeling slightly nervous about the talk, which has never really happened before! AHHH tomorrow can’t come soon, yet slow, enough!