(Closed) having second thoughts….

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think you need to show us a picture πŸ™‚

I only tried on 5 dresses and only went to one shop. The dress I chose was not on my list of gowns. It was one that the sales lady; actually the owner suggested I try on. I fell in love with it, but I did and have wondered if it was “the dress”. I just needed to stop actively looking for other gowns and remember what I looked like and felt like in my gown. I still see gowns and wonder, what if I chose too soon, but I know deep in my heart that I chose right. I am sure you did too πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Noritake22’s respond coulda been mine! You are definitely not the only one with second thoughts about your dress πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

noritake22, that is exactly what happened to me! I tried on a few dresses, and none of them Wowed me. Then I went to a generic, mainstream store and after trying on several of what I thought I wanted, the manager came with a dress that had never even entered my mind. I was shocked when she brought it for me to try on. I thought, what on Earth is this woman doing?! So I tried it on, to be polite, came out with a fake smile and went to the mirror. When I saw it, that was it. It was the one.. But since then,(as we had not set a date or ordered it) I kept my eyes open, and still never found anything that was stunning. I have now ordered it, as of last month, and I feel fairly confident.. though I do still see the styles that I was originally looking at and I sorta wonder…  But I’m sure once I put it on, I’ll remember why I chose it.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree, show us a picture!!!

Hmmm.  Maybe you can go back and try the dress on again. Sometimes that’s all it takes, kind of a reconfirmation with yourself.If it’s still not right, you can always keep looking in your price range in the meantime and sell the other dress if necessarry.Keep your eyes open, try out new styles, and don’t limit your thinking at “bridal gown.” I’ve seen white bridesmaid or prom dresses that were absolutely stunning. If you don’t find the dress that takes your breath away, then you still have a perfectly good dress to wear.

I will admit, I knew my dress the second I saw it. We were shopping for the MOB dress when I turned a corner and there it was. I tried it on and another one besides that, and bought the first that night. Yes, I only ever tried on two dresses. THAT bothered me later. I really hadn’t looked around! I went back to look and the dress again later and you know…it’s still the same feeling. I know it’s the one. I think you will too when you find it. Good luck! Laughing

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

You could always think that there’s some other, better dress out there… just like you could always think there’s some other, better man out there for you! But eventually we fall in love and realise we have to appreciate what we’ve got. If you love your dress, stick with it and you’ll be happy and beautiful on your wedding day. If not, it’s probably best to move on if you’ve got the time and budget.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

For what I’ve seen on various board, it’s normal to have “what ifs”.

I think you should stop thinking about it and start connecting with your FEELINGS about the gown… if your feelings say “it’s it” keep it, if your feelings say “Hmmm maybe” sell it and get another one.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Go look around, if you find one that is more of what you want or the one and you can afford it sell the first and get the one that you do want.

I had originally  planned on making my dress, and have a dress that I did make but our colors changed hanging in a closet. Found a dress on db online and fell in love. I looked at all the other shops and didn’t find anything that screamed me except that one. I’ve waited an extra 2 months before purchasing so I didn’t have have 2nd thoughts about it.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yes, YES they do!  I bought a DB dress in New Hampshire with my mom and 4 months later exchanged it (yesterday in fact) for a new dress that I LOVE!  Talk to them in the store and see if they would be willing to exchange.  Seriously.  It’s worth asking!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I’ve been having the same thoughts on my dress!  It was such a good deal, and the last one they had, that I figured I couldn’t let it pass up.  Now I wish I had tried on more dresses…  I really wanted something with lace, and ended up with brocade.  I pick it up on Friday, so we’ll see how it looks now that I can see it again…

Post # 12
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Helper bee

If you feel really bad about your dress and you do not see yourself on your wedding day happy in it then I would keep looking. I have had a little bit of dress regret when I look at other dresses but then I look at a picture of mine and it all goes away. A little dress regret is normal but if it is dimming the light on your wedding dreams maybe its time to look into something else.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

I think that dress is very pretty and it looks fabulous on you.

Post # 15
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1995 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think it looks amazing on you.  I think it could def. be the one!!  It looks like it suits you very well.  I say make your mind up yes or no.  If you don’t you’ll agaonize over it until the wedding. 

I didn’t have the crying/ah ha/it moment when I found my dress – it doesnt matter.  I love my dress and as long as your happy and comfortable, didn’t break the bank – that is the one.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I really like your dress! keep it!

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