Having second thoughts about my ring

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Sirenbee87:  why would you tell people it’s a diamond?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Why would you tell people that it’s a diamond?

Don’t worry. If you don’t like it you can just return it, like you said. 

If you stick with it and people ask you questions, you can just be honest. Just say, “I wanted to try something different. I’ve never had any moissanite jewelry before.” People should understand and accept that answer without a problem because it’s logical. If they don’t, it’s ok; it’s your jewelry not theirs. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

So don’t tell them it’s a diamond? Tell them you picked a Moissanite because you love the stone, not because you’re trying to pass it off as diamond.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

There’s no law that states you have to inform every person who admires your stone that it’s moissanite. I doubt anyone will even ask. If you have some close family members who will ask about actual stone specs, then you probably will want to tell them, but it may never come up.

ETA: And you’re right; if you don’t like it, you can always return it! I think it’s a 30 day window, and there is a tag on the rings that cannot be damaged.

 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

@Sirenbee87:  Ah, I see. 

Yeah, people may very well get Judge-y. If the opportunity presents itself and you tell them your reasons for getting the moissanite, they may be more understanding.

I doubt you’ll get that many questions about it, though. If you do get questions you don’t have to answer them if you don’t want to. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

I put my 1.3Ct diamond in the safe to wear an ~2.25ct OEC moissy and no one even noticed or asked. Family members I was happy to tell them it’s a moissy, but outsiders? Eh, why volunteer if they don’t ask. They say, it’s pretty, I say thank you.  Done. 

Good luck, I’m sure you’ll love it!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Sirenbee87:  What are the specs you are trying to replace?  Meaning:  what are the specs of your .5 carat diamond?

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Sirenbee87:  I only asked- because I have a .5 carat stone.  It’s a GIA VVS1, J color, excellent cut/symmetry/polish.  And I got it for considerably less than $2k.

When you say the jeweler said it was eye-clean, to me that says there are inclusions that can definitely be send under the microscope (but of course, it’s eye-clean)– which means it’s likely not, for example, a VVS1 in terms of clarity.  Even if your color is higher up, you should easily be able to get a stone that even surpases your old one for (way)Mine less than $2k.  You just have to know where to shop.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I really think you are going to love moissy! I have had mine for nearly 6 months and no one was everasked if it was a diamond. If someone showed genuine interest in the stone, I would tell them but I don’t shout it from the rooftops. Here is mine.:)

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1997

@Sirenbee87:  unfortunately people will judge/look down on any diamond simulant and moissanite is no exception.  

On the other hand, most people will assume any clear stone on an engagement/wedding finger is a diamond, so it’s unlikely anyone will directly ask you specifics.. The vast majority will simply admire your new large “upgrade” . Noone will likely be the wiser unless the ring is obviously outside your lifestyle-even then, most people won’t  say anything to your face.

However, since you said you are “honest to a fault” and already are uncomfortable and “worried” and “wanting to tell people its a diamond”, I would rethink getting a simulant. It’s your 10 year anniversary! and you said your dh is onboard with spending the money to get what you want. I’d go with a better/bigger genuine diamond. More expensive now but you’ll be wearing it forever after all….

Congrats on your 10 year anniversary!

 

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