- 3 years ago
(Below is my original post. But this is the UPDATE: My FI and I have decided to go with someone else. How do I kindly tell this woman that her services are no longer needed?)
I had a post in the past, regarding making a decision about which officiant I should use. It was between 2 women: 1 was less experienced, friendly in her initial email, and affordable; the other woman was rude, and expensive, but more experienced. The majority of you suggested I use the woman who had less experience/friendlier.
So I went ahead and contacted her. She required a $50 down payment, so I sent her a check. She let me know she got the check, and that I’d be receiving a receipt and a questionnaire “soon.” THREE WEEKS LATER, I received these items in my mailbox. I had emailed twice her during those 3 weeks, and never got a response.
First of all, on the envelope itself, the return address was written in, what looked like, a older woman’s handwriting, but my address was written in a different handwriting that looked like that of a 13 year old girl. It was giant, wobbly, and written in purple, sparkly gel ink. Ok… moving on, no biggie I guess…
My “receipt” was her handwriting on the back of her business card that read “$50 deposit made.” *raises eyebrow* And, with a rusty paper clip, was attached the questionnaire.
It’s typed in size 16-18 font (HUGE LETTERING,) with maybe 2 lines in between each question, so there’s really not enough room to write out any answers.
Some of the questions are worded in a weird way, and vague like “How do you see your life together in the future?” and “List 1 thing you have in common?” …Just one?? And how is it a LIST if it’s just 1 thing?
I’m sorry, I know I’m ripping this apart but really… this is the least professional experience I’ve had so far with a vendor. I’m starting to panic. She was only $300, and the other 5-7 women I contacted were well above $500. I guess this is what “affordable” gets you? :