Post # 1
So i hear it is completely normal to have second thoughts but im having MAJOR second thoughts. I just dont know if I got MY dress. I feel there is nothing i can do anyway since it is paid for and in my home and I paid way to much to just go buy another one.
Anyone else experiencing this? If yes, what are you doing about it?
Post # 3
have you/are you having alterations made to the dress? do you have pictures of yourself in the dress? alts will make it look very different on your frame so that is a thought.
Also, is there a specific detail or reason that seems to be spurring your second thoughts?
I haven’t really begun to question my dress as I just bought it over the weekend (okay, there is one picture that makes me think “really?”) but I know that it will look different after the alterations are done & that it really was the only dress I saw that I really actually liked when I went looking.
The whole “all sales final” thing (as well as the cost) have really swayed me from 2nd guessing too much though.
I just try and think about all the positives I like in the dress I purchased, rather than focusing on the negatives/what ifs. The dress makes me feel good about myself, my partner likes it and I don’t have any major qualms with any of the design elements, so I think it is just my brain trying to sabotage me mostly.
Sorry I can’t be more help!
Post # 4
It’s normal, and I think part of it is all those shows where the bride to be tries on a dress and everybody breaks into tears and they all know “this is THE dress!”.
I didn’t have this moment. I found a dress that was the opposite of what I wanted, but it was gorgeous and I looked good in it. When it came in, it was still the opposite of what I wanted and I had MAJOR dress regrets to the point where I dreaded wearing it. When I picked up the MOH dress, I asked if they had any sample sales. I found another dress that didn’t completely sweep me off my feet, but it was beautiful, and I looked and felt great in it. So I bought it with a 70% discount. I will wear dress 1 for the ceremony and dress 2 for the reception. And guess what, since I bought dress 2 , I feel much better about dress 1.
Post # 5
Missmouse: No, I havent had it altered yet. I think this will make a difference but I just cant be sure until I see it all done! I am hoping they can give the dress a more “natural waist” then the rouched fit and flare that it is. I dont have any pictures of myself in the dress as it makes me upset to look at pics! I do have a link for the dress though:
April: That is awesome that you were able to find a second dress that made you feel better about the first 🙂
Post # 6
I’m going through the same thing RIGHT NOW. And it’s been a terrible and emotional experience, as my mother is totally against getting a new dress.
I was having dress regret for a LONG time, and unfortunately it was too late for me to speak up and be honest before it was a done deal.
So now I am a ‘two dress’ bride and I’m still figuring out how to deal with it. I don’t have a lot of support, but I’m trying to stick with what my heart tells me.
I’m now trying to sell my first dress. It’s been emotional. 🙁
Here’s my first dress:
And my DREAM dress that I’m fighting for:
*sigh* It sucks. But…go with your heart, even if you’re all alone in it!
Post # 7
I bought a dress that I ended up having second thoughts about. It was really pretty but it had a much bigger skirt than I originally intended. I have proportionately small hips so it seemed like a shame to hide them under three layers of netting. The dress was gorgeous but I partially bought it because it was way under my budget. I knew that I was really having doubts about it when I couldn’t handle watching Say Yes to the Dress, haha. I ended up deciding to buy another dress and I am so excited about the one I ultimately chose. I’m trying to sell the first one but if I can’t, I think I will get it cut short to wear to the rehearsal dinner/cocktail parties in the future (it’s a style that lends itself to that).
Post # 8
I second guessed my dress several times. But each time I went back to the store to try it on again, I fell in love with it all over again. Finally I bought it after 3 tries. Maybe you just need to put it on again and remember why you loved it in the first place? It is a fabulous dress, by the way!
Post # 9
I don’t know anyone who didn’t mention second thoughts! I hated actually had wedding dreams that it looked so ugly that my DH turned around and walked the other way. I think it’s just because we want everything to be so perfect. Just think back on the reason you pruchased it and the way you felt when you put it on.
Post # 10
Thanks ladies! All wonderful suggestions! Im trying to revisit as often as I can the reason I purchased my dress but as another bee said, while watching Say Yes to the Dress I start getting seriously upset! My FI thinks im crazy and need to stop watching that show but I just can’t!
Post # 11
@kjr- I used to watch SYTTD and be all upset because I would fall in love with a gown on there only to later realize that I tried that same dress on and hated it! I still DVR the show and I have been married for 6 months now lol
Post # 12
This is happening to me too. I left a deposit on a dress and i’ve been feeling like this is not the dress for me. I keep looking at the pics and though its a beautiful dress, something just doesnt click. I’ve been stressing it so much that I’ve been getting headaches every day. So a couple of days ago I decided to take tomorrow (Fri) off from work just to go to different stores and try on more dresses. I am going alone this time since that’s how I get most of my shopping done lol! If I cancel the deposit, I will lose $120 but at this point, I don’t care…
So yeah – I totally understand how you ladies are feeling…
Post # 13
I am having the same feelings. I love my dress, I really do, but I’m worried it’s the wrong one. I got a beautiful ball gown, but I’m worried that I should have done a fit and flare. It’s way too late for me to change too!
Post # 14
@icedchaitea:that second dress is stunning and so flattering on you! I support your decision to change for sure! 🙂
Post # 15
@icedchaitea: I saw you on bridal sugar and I seriously had dress envy. It’s so beautiful! <3
Post # 16
@Mindiana Jones- Who is your designer and style of your dress? It sounds like we want the what eachother have!