(Closed) Having second thoughts on my ring…

posted 7 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Ring size
    I agree, looks smaller than actaully is : (59 votes)
    28 %
    No, It is great! : (138 votes)
    66 %
    Ask for a upgrade : (2 votes)
    1 %
    other- please explains! : (10 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Stop it, it’s beautiful! And if you still feel that way in 5/10 yrs then talk about an upgrade.

    Post # 4
    Member
    9825 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    You told your fiance you HAD to have no less than a carat and you picked it out together. You got exactly what you asked for. Now is not the time to be asking for an upgrade.

    For the record, it looks completely fine.

    Post # 5
    Member
    219 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @ADKbride12:

    when you look for wedding bands it will “fill up” the space & everything will be fine!

    It is an amazing ring!!!! Looks beautiful on you!

    Post # 6
    Member
    105 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    pretty much a dream ring! it’s beautiful and proportional, don’t worry about carat size. (:

    Post # 7
    Member
    53 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    It makes me sad when people care more about the size of a ring than the meaning behind it

    Post # 8
    Member
    6351 posts
    Bee Keeper

    My ring is around .6 carat. Don’t sweat it

    Post # 8
    Member
    3847 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2004

    I think it is beautiful.  My only thought is that all squarish shapes appear a bit smaller per carat than other shapes because more stone is underneath.  This is according to the jeweler we bought from.  If I were you, and did want to have the apperance of a larger center stone, I would just change to a different shape.  That way he is not having to invest even more and you can tell him that you don’t think it is the right shape for you, and not hurt him in the process.  I think that ring would look amazing with a oval (which are supposed to look larger than actual carat weight) or a round.  Keep me updated please, would love to hear what you do.

    Post # 9
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    8738 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @ADKbride12: I think it’s a gorgeous ring. Mine is similar in style and I love it.

    What is the cut of the center stone? Some cuts “face up” smaller than others. (i.e. a 1 carat princess cut will LOOK larger than a 1 carat cushion cut because the cushion cut is deeper so it has a smaller face).

    Post # 10
    Member
    3847 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2004

    I also wanted to add that I don’t think you should feel bad for wanting a different stone.  You live and learn and if it is not right for you than its not right.  I personally would not ask for a larger stone, just a different shape.

    Post # 12
    Member
    1664 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I would stick with what you’ve got, don’t think it’s really fair of you to ask for an upgrade. What you have is stunning, and looks great on your hand.

    Post # 13
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    629 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think it’s beautiful!  The size or the look isn’t important; focus on the meaning behind the ring…

    Post # 14
    Member
    3148 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I know how you feel. sometimes if you pick something out yourself, you have doubts about whether you made the right choice.

    how about a compromise? since you chose the ring, maybe you should pay for the upgrade. if you can’t afford it, then consider an alternate gemstone, or wait a few years until you can afford it. who knows, maybe after that time passes, you’ll grow to love it!

    also, try seeing what it looks like next to a wedding band. that band might add enough bling that you don’t feel like you need the center stone to be bigger any more!

    I think your ring is very pretty, by the way. you’re a lucky girl to get to pick out your own ring!

    Post # 15
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    4313 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @KatyElle: I agree.  And can I just say that I love your posts?

    I think it’s beautiful, your FI did a good job 🙂

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